Somehow I missed this. My apologies.
I would say that you should seek the same result on a different path. I suggest you look at incorporation for you and M. The tax advantages are there. Your assets become corporate property. Your insurance can go to a corporate trust fund. Do you see what I am getting at. I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV, but it is do-able.
I am already married, both in my Buddhist Lhakhang and legally. My life is mostly private. Congrats
My father was gay and he suffered tremendous oppression. He committed suicide in 1981. It is my loving legacy to him, to live openly with my wife. We have been together almost 24 years now. My condolences, belated but sincere, on the loss of your dad. My folks are still alive and elderly. I don't appreciate them nearly enough. Also congrats on the longevity of your marriage.
You haven't done the research I have to understand the legal implications of marriage vs civil unions. You don't understand the complexities and struggles that M and I have in securing each other in the inevitable event that one of us survives the other. You are right that I have not done the research. My point all along is that you should do as you please without the government getting involved.
Why not have an open mind and learn about what its like for us?
There is NO WAY for a lawyer to draw up any documents that will allow us to share the same rights and priveleges that married heterosexuals enjoy in all 50 states, even though we are legally married. Incorporate yourselves.
Talk to a few lawyers. I have often provided extensive research--including on this forum, about the legal realities of life for gay and lesbian couples.
You have stated you are indifferent to gays and lesbians. That is worse that hating us--because you don't care enough to pay attention to our lives and our struggles. I have had that charge levied before. While I don't advocate for you, I don't oppose you either. I personally think hate is worse. But, you are of course entitled to your opinion.
There is nothing more I want then to continue to lead a quiet life. My sexuality is not the first thing on my mind. In loving memory of my father, I will pursue equal rights until the day I die.
Del Martin just died. She and her partner, Phyllis Lyons were lesbian activists. They were married in SF after being together for 50 years. One of them, Del was wheeled in to the ceremony. Sex was hardly what they were proclaiming in marrying. Then the marriage was overturned. Then the state reversed the decision and Del and Phyllis married again. Del died recently. Their marriage is still legal--but in truth, just as my marriage is legal, I do not have the same rights and protections you enjoy in your marriage.
And no lawyer can do anything about that.
I would say that you should seek the same result on a different path. I suggest you look at incorporation for you and M. The tax advantages are there. Your assets become corporate property. Your insurance can go to a corporate trust fund. Do you see what I am getting at. I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV, but it is do-able.