I wonder what the Chetznians (and a few others) would say about that. Check with the Russian state news agencies, they'd be more then happy to tell you how coddled and loved they are by the Russians.
What happened in places like Grozny is what happened in places like Fallujah.
The only difference is, that Russia had a clear interest of self-preservation. After all some elements in Chechnya seek independence by non-democratic means.
Russia didn't send its leaders in-front of TV-cameras preaching Human Rights and Democracy or portraying a danger for all humanity coming out of Chechnya.
It also didn't took "embedded journalism" to places it really doesn't belong to.