Relationship Roles

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How do you think the roles in your relationship should be defined?

  1. Man works; Woman raises kids & maintains house

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    31.3%
  2. Man works; Woman raises kids & maintains house, and could work so long as kids and housework is done

    4 vote(s)
    25.0%
  3. Man works; Woman raises kids - Both share housework

    4 vote(s)
    25.0%
  4. Man works; Woman works - Both share housework and raising kids (ie juggling schedules, etc.)

    5 vote(s)
    31.3%
  5. Woman works; Man raises kids and maintains house (Stay-at-home dad)

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  6. Whoever has the more successful career should work, the other should take care of house and kids.

    3 vote(s)
    18.8%
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  1. The ClayTaurus
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    The male bashing thread left me wondering what people here thought about relationship roles. What do people think and why?
     
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    You start, what do you think?
     
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    I think these roles should be discussed and agreed to prior to marriage and which ever both parties can agree to and fulfill is the best for that couple.
     
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    You beat me to getting the poll up...

    At this point I think housework should be shared, and the woman should either raise kids as the job, or both should work and share raising the kids. I would say that having a woman work while the man raises the kids would be ok, but I think it might drive the man nuts, if not personally, then from all the stereotypes he'd have to endure all day. Admittedly, the jury hasn't completely come back on this issue for me yet.
     
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    Women working full time while kids are young has done more to dissolve marriages and hurt kids than anything I can think of.

    The nuclear family of the 50s had it right...more or less.

    I'm not against Mary working - in fact, when the kids are in school full time she'll likely pick up something to bring in money. Until then, there's NO financial reward worth having a daycare raise our kids.
     
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    This might not be so cut and dry.

    I think there are a lot of factors to be considered.

    Where do they live?

    What is cost of living?

    Is one spouse's income enough to "support" the entire family?

    Do both parents work in order to provide "more" for their children?

    Do they feel that "more" stuff isn't a fair trade off for time without the parents?
     
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    Ooops, didn't notice it was a poll.

    We went with the most successfull career, which wasn't me.

    I don't know why we did that, it just made sense when the suggestion was made. We had seen other couples do it where the wife had a better career and things worked out great. I was also able to work from home, so we didn't have the financial pressures at first either, allowing me to go back to school.
     
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    That's exactly what it is actually. Critical theory is criticizing everything about society, and offering no alternatives. Think democrats.
     

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