Qualified to adopt?

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    Is it right to deny someone the ability to adopt a child (and deny that child a stable and loving home) simply because the applicant is single, and for no other reason?

    Why, or why not?
     
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    Excellent post. We'll see some fireworks with this one!

    I can't find any stats new than this but, in 2001, 32% of adoptions were by single women.

    I think if there is a loving home available, then that home should be considered.
     
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    I think anyone that can provide a loving, stable home to a child should be able to adopt.

    I know many single ladies (I met them at the YMCA) that went to China to adopt baby girls.


    There are also a lot of older children in the foster care system that would love a loving mom to adopt them.
     
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    So it is Political Chic that's just absolutely fucking crackers, and the rest of the world IS normal.

    Whew.

    (Sorry... I'm *really* pissed off. I know SO many single (unmarried) parents that are so much better off where they're at, and to have it be said that someone who's single shouldn't be allowed to parent...) :mad:
     
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    I'm sorry that the initial response to your thread was disappointing. I hope my reply will provide the fireworks you were hoping for.

    Yes.

    Because a single parent home is not a stable home. A single parent will, in the majority of cases, still be looking for a mate. This means there will be a progression of different candidates popping in and out of the child's life during their formative years-- above and beyond the obvious fact that the child will be missing one parent or the other. And, of course, if a child is abused, statistically that abuse is most likely to occur at the hands of their mother's boyfriend. Second most likely? Stepfather. (I'm not being sexist. Women simply abuse children less frequently.)

    Not to mention, a single-parent home is less financially stable than a two-parent home, whether the latter is single or dual income. A parent who must support both a career and a young child is going to end up neglecting one or the other. At least, in dual-income families, there are two adults present, even if they're not available full-time.

    Children deserve to have parents. While the reality of abandonment and divorce in our society-- which sorely needs corrected-- means that this isn't always possible, it would still benefit our society to discourage, by every means possible, people deliberately choosing single parenthood.
     
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    Children deserve to have a stable home life no matter the if there is two or one parent. If the person is stable and can afford to raise the child they should be allowed to adopt. There are too many kids in foster homes not getting the care they need.
    My mom was married when she adopted my two brother's and her husband ended up being a cheating bastard and married a crazy lady after my mother and he never talks to my brothers. My father now is more like their father, with one of my brother's naming one of his children after him. A family isn't always what they say is a "normal" family and having two parents isn't always the right way.
    Plus you obviously don't hold women very highly!
     
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    Didn't bother to read the whole post, did you?

    I would love to hear how you have come to this conclusion.
     
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    It is appropriate to deny a single person the ability to adopt because there is no evidence that that they aren't gay.

    And we don't want any kids corrupted and brainwashed by a gay, do we?



    (Now I will remove my tongue from my cheek.)
     
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    Did Political Chick's Husband join the USMB? :confused:
     
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    actually I did, you claimed a single parent cannot provide a stable home life. And you pretty much said women can't pick the right men and they will have a line of men coming in and out of their life. You are putting people into a box!
     
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