Open marriages?

Well, I still do not see sex as a major thing, it's a physical action, just like bench press.

Eh, I'll probably be too busy studying and working out, I have some weight lifting goals that are considered "impossible" that I have to prove wrong first.

oh honey... i think they call that sublimation.

i mean, ...


oh my.


you're very young.

Sublimation is the transition of a substance from the solid phase to the gas phase without passing through an intermediate liquid phase? Huh?

Also, I am very young, but wisdom and age do not necessarily go hand in hand.

I believe Jillian is talking about the psych term--releasing sexual energy into activities other than sex or trying to get some.
 
But then there was my uncle. He cheated on my aunt, mostly because my aunt refused to sleep with him/let herself go. She got way fat. And the opinion of the Catholic biddies? "Good for him." Or at least, they didn't condemn him... they were actually more pissed at HER.

OK, I'll say this much. A woman who refuses to sleep with her husband -- or ignores any sort of sexual, ah, duty to her husband -- cannot be surprised if he cheats. But women seem to take the attitude that they can ignore their sexual duty AND go all ape-shit when he finally has to take care of business on the side.

Definition of adultery is actually "one who abandons the marriage bed." That's a lot more women, to start, than men.

LMAO! You're a character Joyce, I love it. However, In this day and age of rampant male attention towards internet porn, I have to say that to be fair, these days it's not only the Women who are holding out, but Men as well. :razz: ~BH
 
I was doing some reading about how in most marriages one of both of the partners end up cheating on each other, another article I read says couples with open marriages or couples who swing together don't have the infidelity issues and thus, have more successful marriages. I can see why because obviously they don't have to worry about cheating, a friend of mine does this with his wife and they are the happiest married couple I know. Thoughts?

There are swingers clubs in every state in the union. Some having memberships in 30 other countries.

The divorce rate is high because when people get married, they look like this:

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But when they get divorced, they look like this:

BrettJeremy2.jpg


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The second time they married, they do it for love.
 
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I was doing some reading about how in most marriages one of both of the partners end up cheating on each other, another article I read says couples with open marriages or couples who swing together don't have the infidelity issues and thus, have more successful marriages. I can see why because obviously they don't have to worry about cheating, a friend of mine does this with his wife and they are the happiest married couple I know. Thoughts?

There are swingers clubs in every state in the union. Some having memberships in 30 other countries.

The divorce rate is high because when people get married, they look like this:

film_myfairlady.jpg


But when they get divorced, they look like this:

BrettJeremy2.jpg


twiggyNAT2811_600x417.jpg


The second time they married, they do it for love.

Well there is an old saying in Iran, they say the first marriage is just for practice.
 
I was doing some reading about how in most marriages one of both of the partners end up cheating on each other, another article I read says couples with open marriages or couples who swing together don't have the infidelity issues and thus, have more successful marriages. I can see why because obviously they don't have to worry about cheating, a friend of mine does this with his wife and they are the happiest married couple I know. Thoughts?

I know some people who are like this, and I would not say what they have is "a successful marriage". And how is it "not having to worry about cheating"? I guess if your swingers, you could call it not cheating because you're present, or in the next room, but cheating is cheating in my book. Without a doubt open marriages are cheating, because that's more about doing your thing on your own, not as swingers do where it's an orgy or usually in the same residence.

Personally, I think these types of confused individuals should just stay single and live together if that's what gets them off. I could never understand how watching someone screw your own wife is somehow a turn on. Pretty much, Swinging or open marriages = Mental illness.

On a side note, I never understood why they called the movie Swingers, Swingers? There was no swinging in the movie whatsoever. It was just about a bunch of guys trying to pick up Women. Great movie though. ~BH

Its only called "cheating" when the other person doesn't know about it, if your wife is ok with you having sex with other women and is ok with that, than it is not cheating. You can think people who swing and have open marriages are mentally ill if you want to but the people that do join swingers clubs are usually the people with the best careers and standing in your communities, people in swingers clubs are not bums on the street or on welfare.
 
Well, I still do not see sex as a major thing, it's a physical action, just like bench press.

Eh, I'll probably be too busy studying and working out, I have some weight lifting goals that are considered "impossible" that I have to prove wrong first.

Sex is nothing like bench press, you will see my friend.:cool:

Willing to bet Bench Press has more benefits.

Apples and oranges my friend, once you go into the Air Force and find a girl there and have sex on a daily basis, you will see.
 
But then there was my uncle. He cheated on my aunt, mostly because my aunt refused to sleep with him/let herself go. She got way fat. And the opinion of the Catholic biddies? "Good for him." Or at least, they didn't condemn him... they were actually more pissed at HER.

OK, I'll say this much. A woman who refuses to sleep with her husband -- or ignores any sort of sexual, ah, duty to her husband -- cannot be surprised if he cheats. But women seem to take the attitude that they can ignore their sexual duty AND go all ape-shit when he finally has to take care of business on the side.

Definition of adultery is actually "one who abandons the marriage bed." That's a lot more women, to start, than men.

I agree 100% William, thats the reason many men have affairs to begin with, women have affairs when they feel "emotionally neglected". The lack of sex is a major factor for marriages to do down the tubes.
 
Apples and oranges my friend, once you go into the Air Force and find a girl there and have sex on a daily basis, you will see.

Eh, I am banking on being ugly enough to keep most of the women at bay ;).

You will be fine, besides alot of civilian women have a thing for men in uniform.

Eh, I am going to be super-busy. This is what I am shooting to do while in the AF, even my first year:

-USAF Boxing Team (Whichever Base I end up on)
-820th Security Forces Team (24 Hour Response)
-Combat Fitness
-Weight Lifting
-Online College Courses/Classes

So, I should be busy enough to make myself have little to no time to fraternize lol.
 
Eh, I am banking on being ugly enough to keep most of the women at bay ;).

You will be fine, besides alot of civilian women have a thing for men in uniform.

Eh, I am going to be super-busy. This is what I am shooting to do while in the AF, even my first year:

-USAF Boxing Team (Whichever Base I end up on)
-820th Security Forces Team (24 Hour Response)
-Combat Fitness
-Weight Lifting
-Online College Courses/Classes

So, I should be busy enough to make myself have little to no time to fraternize lol.

Even the busiest people in the Military find time to enjoy the warmth of a woman from time to time, you'll see.
 
You will be fine, besides alot of civilian women have a thing for men in uniform.

Eh, I am going to be super-busy. This is what I am shooting to do while in the AF, even my first year:

-USAF Boxing Team (Whichever Base I end up on)
-820th Security Forces Team (24 Hour Response)
-Combat Fitness
-Weight Lifting
-Online College Courses/Classes

So, I should be busy enough to make myself have little to no time to fraternize lol.

Even the busiest people in the Military find time to enjoy the warmth of a woman from time to time, you'll see.

lol ok High Gravity, I have to rep you, I've enjoyed our conversation :).

~Edit~ I have to spread it before I can give you more rep :(.
 
I was doing some reading about how in most marriages one of both of the partners end up cheating on each other, another article I read says couples with open marriages or couples who swing together don't have the infidelity issues and thus, have more successful marriages. I can see why because obviously they don't have to worry about cheating, a friend of mine does this with his wife and they are the happiest married couple I know. Thoughts?

I know some people who are like this, and I would not say what they have is "a successful marriage". And how is it "not having to worry about cheating"? I guess if your swingers, you could call it not cheating because you're present, or in the next room, but cheating is cheating in my book. Without a doubt open marriages are cheating, because that's more about doing your thing on your own, not as swingers do where it's an orgy or usually in the same residence.

Personally, I think these types of confused individuals should just stay single and live together if that's what gets them off. I could never understand how watching someone screw your own wife is somehow a turn on. Pretty much, Swinging or open marriages = Mental illness.

On a side note, I never understood why they called the movie Swingers, Swingers? There was no swinging in the movie whatsoever. It was just about a bunch of guys trying to pick up Women. Great movie though. ~BH

Its only called "cheating" when the other person doesn't know about it, if your wife is ok with you having sex with other women and is ok with that, than it is not cheating. You can think people who swing and have open marriages are mentally ill if you want to but the people that do join swingers clubs are usually the people with the best careers and standing in your communities, people in swingers clubs are not bums on the street or on welfare.

Again, Anyone who lives this kind of a lifestyle I believe is mentally ill. Oh, and there are plenty of people with the best careers who are clearly mentally ill. Just look at Congress. LMAO! ~BH
 
I know some people who are like this, and I would not say what they have is "a successful marriage". And how is it "not having to worry about cheating"? I guess if your swingers, you could call it not cheating because you're present, or in the next room, but cheating is cheating in my book. Without a doubt open marriages are cheating, because that's more about doing your thing on your own, not as swingers do where it's an orgy or usually in the same residence.

Personally, I think these types of confused individuals should just stay single and live together if that's what gets them off. I could never understand how watching someone screw your own wife is somehow a turn on. Pretty much, Swinging or open marriages = Mental illness.

On a side note, I never understood why they called the movie Swingers, Swingers? There was no swinging in the movie whatsoever. It was just about a bunch of guys trying to pick up Women. Great movie though. ~BH

Its only called "cheating" when the other person doesn't know about it, if your wife is ok with you having sex with other women and is ok with that, than it is not cheating. You can think people who swing and have open marriages are mentally ill if you want to but the people that do join swingers clubs are usually the people with the best careers and standing in your communities, people in swingers clubs are not bums on the street or on welfare.

Again, Anyone who lives this kind of a lifestyle I believe is mentally ill. Oh, and there are plenty of people with the best careers who are clearly mentally ill. Just look at Congress. LMAO! ~BH

People that practice this kind of life style are all consenting adults and no one is getting hurt, they are better people than the guys who beat their wives and children on a daily basis.
 

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