My mother is an alcoholic - is it right that I have to pay for her?

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    Hi

    As my thread title says, i have a specific ethic question.

    I´m 40 years old now and I know my mother only being drunk or being in rehab. Because of her alcoholic "disease", two of my siblings committed suicide trials, one is in jail, another in a psychatric institution.

    Now my mother took her last drink and is now in a home for retired people where she can´t get out anymore because she has alcoholic dementia and alzheimer.

    I´m the onlies of 6 siblings who gained some kind of a "normal life" - even though i had a horrible childhood, including staying in children´s homes, staying at extremely violent foster parents etc..

    Now I got a letter from the city my mother lives that I have to show my incomes and assets because I have to pay for the home of my mother.

    What do you think about that? How is this arranged in the usa?
     
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    She's in a home. Relax. Have a drink.
     
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    Well, I have to pay nearly 400$ per month to the home. It´s hard to relax. And Thanks, I don´t drink at all.
     
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    I feel your pain. Good luck.
     
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    400 a month is cheap
     
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    Now that I have thought about it..maybe you should put on your coolest sneakers and make a run for it.
     
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    it´s not so much the question about cheap or expensive. I like to know if that´s right that I have to pay for her? Just on an ethical view. Well, whatever she has done, she s still my mother and it´s a biblial law to love the parents. But how far is this meant? Is it really infinite, what parents can do to their children? Do they have to love them always and forever?
     
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    And what happens to her if you don't comply?
     
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    $400?
    Wow - that's great!
    My Dad's average is $5K/month.
    Thank goodness he has assisted living insurance. After the invoice, it's about $1K we owe. Incidenatals - his diapers, wipes, meals in the room, etc.
    $400???
    Wow - cheap.
    Laughable.
     

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