It's That Time of Year-What I'm Thankful For...

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    Pretty much inspired by the 'best present' thread, after reading a post by Gigi and knowing the way I feel about those loved and lost, thought it might be an upper to think of what we do have:

    * my three children, now adults. Best things that ever happened to me.
    * having had parents that knew how to parent and passed at least some of their skills onto my brother and I. I miss them dearly, but they will never be gone while their descendants are around.
    * having a job I truly love, it makes me a better person.
    * my relationships with students, current and past. Dang there are so many!
    * Friends, real most of all; but online have a special place in my heart, too.
    * technology, for enriching my life and my teaching.
    * my home, humble though it is, warm and mine.
    * God given abilities, no I'll not list them. :lol:

    Happy Thanksgiving!
     
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    We found an Adult Family Care center for my low functioning autistic child. They are wonderfuly people. Yeah, they supported Barach, but we were able to have discussions without them deteriorating into fights. That means a lot to me. Being able to express different viewpoints without losing respect on either side. They are good people. They already have two boys from my son's transition class living there and one of them can talk and says how much he likes it there.

    We are planning on putting him there in January and we are transitioning him now. I'm very thankful that for the first time in 24 years, I'll be able to take a 2 week vacation, forget about the fact that I don't have the money, just knowing I can do it has taken a great burden off my shoulders. Now it's time to start saving up.
     
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    I admire you AS, as it's got to be so hard to 'let go', regardless of the relief. My parents had my older down's sister institutionalized from infancy. When more was known, they had her moved to sheltered care. It was the best thing for her and my brother and I. In all seriousness, I'm sure I caused lots of grief to my parents beginning in middle school, when I accused them of not loving their less than perfect first child. I wanted her home!

    I came to see how it was better for her and certainly my brother and I as young children, that she was not at home. I can't imagine how my parents would have coped with her as an adult, while they were getting older. She had so many health issues and she was so happy where she was!

    I need to give kudos to Crayola, her employer for over 20 years, until she became too sick. While they could only pay her a minimal wage, due to being a ward of the state and receiving social security, they donated the remainder of what they considered a 'fair wage' to the association of retarded citizens every year. When she died, their's was the largest floral arrangement received, in fact the only one outside of family.
     
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    Don't worry, we aren't abandoning my son. We are transitioning him. Even when he moves in january, we will still have him here 4 days a week except for if we decide to go somewhere. We want him to have a place to be comfortable in just in case something happens to us. We've already made arrangements with my nephew to be the back up guardian so now we need to start the paperwork. I want him to be taken care of even after we are gone.

    Plus, with that home, I can go back to work. I'm going to seriously start looking for a job in January.

    Crayola sounds like a great company. My son works at a factory in Kent and he gets paid in proportion to the work he does. He spends about 3 hours a day there and he loves it. He made $90 last month. He doesn't do it for the money though, I don't think he understands money yet. But he enjoys working and having something to do. I think this home will be the best thing for him. It's also taking a lot of the burden off of my shoulders. As I said, these people are great people. I know he'll be in a good place when he's there.
     
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    Again, kudos for being realistic and caring. My parents never 'abandoned' my sister, though they never brought her home, following the advice of my mom's sister and her doctors. My parents spent the first 6 years of her life, being with her as much as possible, first in a caretaker's home, later in an institution. Then I was born. The visits were limited to weekends then, I and later my brother with sitters. I 'found out' about my sister when I was 7. She then 14. I cried and cried, I always had wanted a sister, not my pesky brother. Thinking about it, I probably added to their guilt earlier than middle school, but it was at that point, when I was in school with down's kids included, that I really started hounding my folks. Of course, this really was pretty cutting edge, Down's kids in gym, home ec in the late 60's.

    It took my best friend's father, who suffered from serious depression, to explain the cost on siblings of a seriously disabled child. His brother was more or less a 'vegetable' due to childhood illness. His health was fragile, though he lived into his 70's! The parents attention was always directed to to sick one, who also had periods of violent outbursts. No friends could come over. No help was available for school. Parents were not involved in the other children's activities. I and I guess my folks were lucky that he overheard one of my rants to my friend about my sister. He brought us both into the living room and told us what was what. Both of us in tears, for myself and this very nice man and a lost childhood. He made me realize what sacrifices my parents had made, at cost to themselves.

    After that, I learned sign language so I could converse with my sister, (totally deaf, she got the worst of all the gene pool problems). I sat down with my mom and told her what Mr. J had told my friend C and I. I apologized for the hurt I knew I caused. I think I was in sophomore year of hs. From that point on, my sister was included in all holidays and family celebrations. She stood up in my wedding and adored each baby of my brother and I, though she would slap at them for touching anything of hers, even if they were just toddlers. (Bringing home again, how lucky my brother and I were that she was not at home when we were that age.)
     
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    Good Luck to you and and your son, Sheila. Hope it works out for everyone.

    Life can change in a moment. I am thankful that my family are healthy and happy.

    Around this time of year, lots of people get blue because reality does not match expectations. Give thanks for what you have and this will go a long way in making you feel happier.

    True friends are hard to come by and this has been the source of some of my sadness. I've come to learn that I must have realistic expectations...

    Happy Turkey Day! -- Even though we won't be having turkey that day!
     
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    You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to PoliticalChic again.

    I probably missed it, what are you having instead of turkey?
     
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    LOL! Time to change that reputation rule!

    No, I never mentioned it. One of our relatives have offered to smoke a few ducks. So we'll be having ducks that night with all the usual sides. I hope the kids don't protest. They always look forward to the turkey because it is traditional. So I hope they don't go into shock! LOL!
     
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    Hey, ducks are birds, that should be all that matters.

    We're having both Turkey AND ham. For six people. Geez, we're gonna be eating left over Turkey FOREVER!

    Definition of eternity: 2 people and a 20 pound turkey
     
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    Hope you like turkey and have plenty of leftover recipes! LOL! I love ham, especially ones with maple syrup. YUM.
     

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