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There was a reason for traditional courtship. It was to avoid the very problems you people keep citing as a condemnation of marriage. You're railing against a problem you've created.ekrem said:Maybe those men married problematic women and realized this only at a later point after marriage. Not everyone has the nerves to deal with problematic women a life-time.
Especially if you've the money to 'buy' a new one (celebrity-factor).
A member even talked about his wife closing the down-shop.
I can also think of women using that as some kind of weapon or award/punishment, like a dog who is given awards after a desired behavior.
It's common knowledge, that after some years of marriage intercourse becomes rare. So if the man is still active, and he does not get what he wants, then maybe the wife realizes what power she really possesses.
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People tend to think money has something to do with the high divorce rates but it actually doesn't, people with higher incomes actually get divorced at higher rates than people with lesser money. Look at these people for examples, Tony Parker, Shaquille O'neal, Dwayne Wade and Mel Gibson. (...)
Maybe those men married problematic women and realized this only at a later point after marriage. Not everyone has the nerves to deal with problematic women a life-time.
Especially if you've the money to 'buy' a new one (celebrity-factor).
So being a man is staying in a marriage where both parties are miserable? I fail to see what "being a man" has to do with anything? are you saying marriage is a failure because men are not taking care of their responsibilities? women are doing nothing wrong than? you can still "be a man" without getting married.
Friend, judging by your post, you are not stupid...you know exactly what I mean.
But I relish the opportunity to review the situation.
1. I have no opinion about dating, hooking up, or what ever euphemism you choose.
2. But the critical period during which children are possible, is one for which both parties should take responsibility. Prior to such time, introspection should include, 'how will I assume responsibility if children result,' and 'how does this partner fit the model as a) a parent for my child, and b) a person to whom I can commit a lifetime'
Note, I have not commented on who or when you choose a partner, but simply that one should have made the decisions prior to 'the moment.'
If you hide behind some bogus 'not being able to help myself,' or the latest permutation, 'I'm a sex addict,' you should be prepared to stand by and raise that helpless innocent...and you deserve no respect for whinng about how 'unhappy' you are.
We humans are of a higher level because we have the ability, and obligation, to think about our actions.
What to do when you find yourself in a 'failed marriage'? My best guess is that you behave in a civil manner toward the spouse you once loved, and behave in a loving manner toward the child. For eighteen years...then go your way.
3. If you can behave otherwise, and still be happy with yourself, then we have no correspondence on this matter.
Have you ever been married? staying married with someone that you no longer love for 18 years can do more damage to the children than actually helping them, when the kids see their mom and dad fighting and screaming at each other everyday how does that help their development? A large part of why alot of marriages fail is because people feel obligated to get married to someone because they have children, and then it all ends up burning to the ground anyways. Alot of the times you really don't know the person you married until its too late.
Sorry the major cause of divorce is inflation because it leads to a miscalculation of wealth and income and therefore relative fitness of a mate. Extrapolating divorce trends during a currency collapse does not work well.
People tend to think money has something to do with the high divorce rates but it actually doesn't, people with higher incomes actually get divorced at higher rates than people with lesser money. Look at these people for examples, Tony Parker, Shaquille O'neal, Dwayne Wade and Mel Gibson. Very wealthy people with all the money in the world and they could not hold their marriages together, how good of a chance does an average schmoe off the streets have at succeding at marriage when these guys can't even pull it off? actually people with lesser monies stay married because alot of the times they have nowhere to go and getting divorced is expensive, so they tolerate the misery and hell and stay married.
You attack my intellect over a typo and don't proofread the post in which you do so?I know, she used some big word any wrote past a third-grade reading level. It's difficult for you, isn't it? I'm not surprised you can't form an intelligent rebuttal. It's par for the course with you.Yeah whatever.
Whatever bitch all you do is come on here to talk shit, plus your dumb as fuck as well. "she used some big word any wrote past a third grade reading level" what the hell does that mean? you are stupid as fuck.
I take it you're against anti-spousal rape laws then?A member even talked about his wife closing the down-shop.
I can also think of women using that as some kind of weapon or award/punishment, like a dog who is given awards after a desired behavior.
It's common knowledge, that after some years of marriage intercourse becomes rare. So if the man is still active, and he does not get what he wants, then maybe the wife realizes what power she really possesses.
Thats another reason why marriage is a joke.
A member even talked about his wife closing the down-shop.
I can also think of women using that as some kind of weapon or award/punishment, like a dog who is given awards after a desired behavior.
It's common knowledge, that after some years of marriage intercourse becomes rare. So if the man is still active, and he does not get what he wants, then maybe the wife realizes what power she really possesses.
time for a visit to ye olde sex shoppe for a cock ring and a battery-operated boyfriend?A member even talked about his wife closing the down-shop.
I can also think of women using that as some kind of weapon or award/punishment, like a dog who is given awards after a desired behavior.
It's common knowledge, that after some years of marriage intercourse becomes rare. So if the man is still active, and he does not get what he wants, then maybe the wife realizes what power she really possesses.
And what happens if its the man who cant preform and its the woman who isnt getting what she wants?
time for a visit to ye olde sex shoppe for a cock ring and a battery-operated boyfriend?A member even talked about his wife closing the down-shop.
I can also think of women using that as some kind of weapon or award/punishment, like a dog who is given awards after a desired behavior.
It's common knowledge, that after some years of marriage intercourse becomes rare. So if the man is still active, and he does not get what he wants, then maybe the wife realizes what power she really possesses.
And what happens if its the man who cant preform and its the woman who isnt getting what she wants?
If the success of your marriage hinges on sex, you probably shouldn't have gotten married.
What happens when she's old and dry and he's old and flaccid?
She called the failure of her own marriage "perhaps my main regret" in a Monitor interview. "I believe in marriage. I think intimacy, bonding, and families have value." Expressing the hope that her grandchildren would marry and have children, she said, "Families are a great thing."
The Perils of Playing House | Psychology TodayCouples who move in together before marriage have up to two times the odds of divorce, as compared with couples who marry before living together. Moreover, married couples who have lived together before exchanging vows tend to have poorer-quality marriages than couples who moved in after the wedding. Those who cohabited first report less satisfaction, more arguing, poorer communication and lower levels of commitment. Many researchers now argue that our penchant for combining households before taking vows is undermining our ability to commit. Meaning, the precautions we take to ensure marriage is right for us may wind up working against us.
