Is Living Apart Good for Marriage? For More Americans, Two Roofs May Be Better Than One

[Mindful]

Imagine it: you don’t see his socks strewn across the floor. Her elephantine snoring no longer wakes you. You can actually hear yourself think. When you meet up with your partner, the spark of romance crackles in the air once again.

Doesn’t sound so bad, does it?

The ancient Romans thought that sleeping in the same bed ruined a marriage. What about sleeping under the same roof?

If you’re a trend-watcher like me, you may have noticed an increasing number of stories in the media about married couples living apart. That’s because the number of people going this route is skyrocketing. According the U.S. Census Bureau, an estimated 3.5 million married couples in the U.S. are living apart. The number of married couples who live separately for reasons other than legal separation has nearly doubled since 1990.

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[DGS49]

We live in a cafeteria society. People want the good stuff but don't want to have to deal with anything that might be difficult or unpleasant. Living apart is not "marriage," unless you are a liberal, and words mean anything you think they ought to mean at the moment when you speak them.

(Legally) married people who live apart generally do so because some extraordinary circumstance requires it, usually good jobs in different locations. If they CHOOSE to live apart then they are not married in any rational sense. They are dating and occasionally fucking, but don't want the reality of marriage.