anotherlife
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Can you give a few examples of these different ideas? Are they diametrically opposite?Usually parents have the actions described in the OP, especially when those parents are teachers or other academics. I find that perents think helping children is the same as helping themselves in their own terms, regardless of the environment of the children. Therefore, if we remove God from the idea of life, then we end up with a self destructive process, that is also judged predatorially.
No, controlling all aspects of the environment and personal capabilities of the life they start is not a parent's job, and is the exact opposite of a parent's job of preparing their child to successfully function and prosper in the real world. You have some really twisted ideas.
Just a statistical observation. For example it was presented on TV, that certain "intellectuals" such as teachers and psychologists, find it unacceptable and unbearable, if their child doesn't go for high academia. Also, some sportsman parents don't tolerate if their child is not a leading talent in some school team. And so on. Parents usually say they serve best by maximizing their child's achievement, whilst doing nothing but controlling the child to its ruin, like roads to hell paved with good will and such.
Parents, like anybody else, have different ideas about what a person must learn to be successful in life. Making sure your children learn those things is a far cry from controlling every aspect of their lives.
I'm sure some of them could be diametrically opposed.Some parents think proficiency at sports, and the required teamwork is important for future success. Others believe math is a main priority. Still others might think music, or a strong background in literature. Some believe all that is a waste, and put less emphasis on formal education in favor of hard work on a farm.
No. The parents don't have to care how far they go, or how to distinguish their own ideas from anything of the child. There is plenty of texts how children are to respect the adults, but there is nothing about adults respecting children. It is all fair game, like a fox hunt.