My Dad was a WWII Navy Vet and passed away on the anniversary of the final decommissioning of his beloved CV-19 of which he was a plank owner. I had posted a notice in the "My Dad Voted today" thread as a capstone to the life of a truly great American but wanted to highlight an extremely important takeaway Many people came forward to pay their respects including a childhood friend who took a day off from his new position at Google in CA to catch a redeye for the funeral. We received so many cards and emails and phone calls from people who said how much my Dad had influenced them. While going over some of the letters with my Mom, she made the comment, "Do you know how much it would have meant to him to hear this while he was alive?" And there's the takeaway. If you have something to say, don't wait! They can't hear you at their funeral! Another childhood friend who also lost her Dad to cancer gave me a strategy for dealing with this. She wrote a eulogy to her father and read it to him while he was still alive so he would know how much she meant to him. I didn't do that, but over the course of several conversations, some in the hospital and some at home, I let my Dad know how I felt about him. I'm letting people know how I feel both good and not so good --and some like to hear and others don't. C'est la vie!