If your lover asks you what's wrong,

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    you say "Nothing", but there is something wrong and you just don't want to talk about it,

    are you a liar, or should they get the message you aren't ready to say?
     
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    Pretty much a no win situation there. Kinda like the old line of "does this dress make my butt look big".
     
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    In that situation both my wife and I tell each other: "I really don't want to discuss it right now. Can we talk about this later?" We both know later will come.
     
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    All I know is if you ask her what's wrong, and she snaps "Nothing!", and you treat her like nothing's wrong, you're in deeper crap than you were before.
     
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    It could be one or the other, hopefully not both
     
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    Good responses might be "The boss hired his nephew, who is as smart as Rdean, and I have to work with him."

    Two important things to remember are you don't want to make an enemy of your partner, who you can't change. It gives you time to deal and move on.
     
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    Exactly!

    Sometimes you just aren't ready to talk about something. I like to 'think things through' before I'm ready to talk about them, and see if I can solve the problem or whatnot on my own first .
     
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    But it all depends on what is bothering you.... what if you found a new lover? :eek:

    Never a good time to discuss that!
     
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    If my lover says nothing, then I leave him alone, because I don't want to know the answer. ;)
     
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    And many will think that is what you do not want to talk about.

    A few good ones will let you put off discussing it. But many once they realize you are holding something back will worry you to death.
     

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