I feel guilty over the death of my boss' secretary...

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    She was very, very old and very, very sick.

    She was rude to me.

    She did not get the work done, it was left piling up everywhere.

    Every time I looked at her computer she was viewing something non-work related.

    The boss took her out on cigarette breaks on her wheelchair. It was obvious he cared for her very much.

    She had been with the firm for 25 years and there was no way he was ever going to fire her no natter how much she goofed off and slept at her desk.

    Every day I wished she would go away, I wanted her gone, I wanted her to retire.

    On Monday evening she passed away.

    And now I feel guilty, because I wanted her gone, and now she is gone.

    I can tell no one at work how I feel.
     
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    Sometimes the hardest people to live with are ourselves.
     
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    Did you murder her?
     
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    I didn’t know we worked in the same office!
     
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    No, not even my heart did I murder her.

    I wanted her to retire.

    It was very frustrating to me that the work was not getting done, and every time I saw her she was either asleep at her desk or looking at an Amazon catalogue.
     
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    Maybe her demeanor had nothing to do with you but was a result of the fact she still had to work even though she was old and feeble enough for a wheel chair....just think what a great retirement system we could have in America if every elected official were as America first as Trump is......
     
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    she worked for the boss, not you. why did it bother you her work wasn't getting done?
     
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    Because it was also my work not getting done. I write letters to clients and carriers, responses to discovery, etc., weeks later they still haven't gone out. I know it's the bosses fault, but part of the reason it's his fault is he kept a secretary on as a charity case who did not and could not get a day's work done.
     
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    She's in a better place, BlackRook. Don't worry. And you are a more mature man for realizing there's always more we could have done for the deceased. It's just human. When I feel low, I pull out a sewing machine and make a quilt top for charity--seniors in nursing homes and fatherless babies with AIDs. It only takes a couple of days, and when I'm done, the blues were chased away the first five minutes of work. Of course, I'm retired, widowed and have no dependents. Just the thought that you're doing something for someone else you will never see has its comforting aspect. There are a lot of ways you can do good in your own community, or in one far away in your co-worker's honor. It never fails to benefit you to do good to someone else, especially a co-worker. And you don't have to tell anyone. Healing is done from within your own heart by you, trust me. :huddle:
     
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    Gotta wonder.
     
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