How to Win the Heart of that Special Someone...

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    I have a fascination with Valentine's Day and with love in general. I loved the story of Snow White as a child...

    Lust is easy to find, but love is so elusive that once you find it, you don't want to let it go.

    How do you hold onto it?
     
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    i always talk abaout somthing i n common like music and sports.
     
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    Sometimes even if you want to hold onto it, the other person doesn't. That sucks, ya know?
     
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    You can't. If you try, you kill it.
     
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    I hear you. Maybe that person wasn't the right person at the time?

    I have a friend who was married three times previously. The marriages all failed for whatever reason and now she is happily married to a younger man and her daughter from a previous marriages loves the new husband to death. Who would have thunk it?

    I didn't think she would get married again, but she was so persistent.
     
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    So you're saying, it's either there forever or it's not meant to be?
     
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    No, I'm saying you can "try to hold on". That's not what love does, love just loves unconditionally.
     
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    Don't sweat the small stuff...

    Treat lover as you would a friend....have patience with them...

    Those who play together, stay together...

    are just 3 things that quickly come to mind!

    care
     
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    I've never been able to subscribe to unconditional love. There have always been conditions in my relationships.
     
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    I think when you find the right person the conditions go away. Of course, we must also be secure enough in ourselves, which can be difficult, to let go of conditions. I don't say any of this lightly, I haven't found it yet, but I think it is the way because of my understanding of God. God loves us unconditionally and his love is perfect. So, I think if we could become more like God our relationships would be better. I try to approach the world everyday with unconditional love. It's difficult, but I'm getting better, and my days have been better too.

    I wish you all the luck in your journey.
     
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