The answer is easy. If they are offended by it, then they are deserving of it. For example, if you called a homosexual a queer or fag, they would probably be offended by it. Which means that they deserve it. Or what if you called a negro the "N" word. They would probably be offended by it. (Even though many negroes use the word amongst themselves) This means that they are deserving of the insult. Etc. etc. etc. On the other hand, a negro can't call me Whity, cracker, honkey or any other ethnic slur. Because to me, it is a compliment.