How to Deal with the Family Criminal?...

[Onyx]

Remind me what exactly did he do?

Took pictures of teenagers.

 

[Anathema]

Just a thought. Keep in mind a Peeping Tom is a lot different than a rapist. So if this relative of yours was a flasher or a Peeping Tom he's not really a rapist he's just a pervert and your wife needs to be reminded that all guys are a little perverted. If you didn't hurt anyone which I'm not sure if you did or didn't then don't act like he's raping women

He pled guilty to Child Endangerment and Invasion of Privacy related to secretly taping underage girls getting changed in his home photography studio and exposing himself to some of those girls. No physical contact was ever alleged to have occured.

My wife and I both understand that these activities don't constitute rape. We just don't care. He's a six offender and we don't want anything to do with him if possible.

 

[Skull Pilot]

Just don't go to any events he attends. Your wife's wishes trump those of your mother

True. Unfortunately that means effectively alienating myself from my entire family.

They will either respect your choice or they you wouldn't be alienating them they would be turning their backs n you simple because you stood by your wife

It's all on them because you are doing the right thing by standing by your wife

 

[Coyote]

Is it possible to attend family events and ask that he stay away from you and your wife? Would your wife be willing if so?

 

[Iceweasel]

No, you can't bluff your away around.

On the contrary, I cannot keep espousing established sex psychology with someone uneducated on sex psychology.

Sex is an addiction?

Not necessarily. It is however addictive.

You don't even have grade school word knowledge.

Deflection.

We all have hormones but most of us have brains too. some people use those brains to delve into some perverted shit.

In our brains is a subconscious. You do not choose to apply "perversion," but rather "perversion" naturally dwells at the edges of your mind

It isn't predetermined and you can't begin to support it.

Never said it was. I stated that it was subconscious.

Again, rationalize why you fixate on tits (presumably)

You made stupid assertions and then tried to pretend they were based on science. Then you tried to bluff your way out of it. You are either trolling or off the charts stupid. Sex is way more than subconsciously driven. Find one other human being on Earth that agrees with you.

 

[Iceweasel]

Remind me what exactly did he do?

Took pictures of teenagers.

LOL. You don't even know what the thread is about.

 

[Onyx]

You made stupid assertions and then tried to pretend they were based on science. Then you tried to bluff your way out of it. You are either trolling or off the charts stupid.

Insults signify deflection.

You are tripping.

Sex is way more than subconsciously driven. Find one other human being on Earth that agrees with you.

About every sexual scientist and sexual philosopher. No joke.

Do not be intentionally moronic. Your dick does not get hard by choice.[/QUOTE]

 

[Onyx]

LOL. You don't even know what the thread is about.

You just demonstrated that you do not know what the thread is about.

He asked what the guy in question did. He took pictures of teenagers. That is a factually correct statement.

 

[Iceweasel]

You made stupid assertions and then tried to pretend they were based on science. Then you tried to bluff your way out of it. You are either trolling or off the charts stupid.

Insults signify deflection.

You are tripping.

Sex is way more than subconsciously driven. Find one other human being on Earth that agrees with you.

About every sexual scientist and sexual philosopher. No joke.

Do not be intentionally moronic. Your dick does not get hard by choice.

Wrong moron. Insults that are well deserved are purposeful. You make stupid statements you can't begin to back up then insult people's intelligence by claiming it's science. If it's science, where is it? My dick isn't sex. Different words, different meanings. Some perverts get turned on with animals. That seems natural to you?

 

[Jarlaxle]

Just don't go to any events he attends. Your wife's wishes trump those of your mother

True. Unfortunately that means effectively alienating myself from my entire family.

They will either respect your choice or they you wouldn't be alienating them they would be turning their backs n you simple because you stood by your wife

It's all on them because you are doing the right thing by standing by your wife

Dude...check the poster. They might be LOOKING for an excuse to write off his psychotic ass.

 

[sealybobo]

Just a thought. Keep in mind a Peeping Tom is a lot different than a rapist. So if this relative of yours was a flasher or a Peeping Tom he's not really a rapist he's just a pervert and your wife needs to be reminded that all guys are a little perverted. If you didn't hurt anyone which I'm not sure if you did or didn't then don't act like he's raping women

He pled guilty to Child Endangerment and Invasion of Privacy related to secretly taping underage girls getting changed in his home photography studio and exposing himself to some of those girls. No physical contact was ever alleged to have occured.

My wife and I both understand that these activities don't constitute rape. We just don't care. He's a six offender and we don't want anything to do with him if possible.

My buddy was just as creepy and he didn't even serve a year. Your boy did 8 years? He served his time.

 

[GaryDog]

I see, so you're citing third-hand anecdotal evidence about one county in Colorado. Great.

No, I also mentioned all of the studies that are behind paywalls so can't provide a link. Please read my posts fully instead of trying to pick stupid fights for no reason.

No, I rightly ignored those, since they produced no content from you.

Only because you're not smart enough to understand the basics. It's OK. You might catch up. Keep trying!

YOU'RE unable to produce the evidence and you put it on me for "not understanding the basics."

LMAO, you're an idiot.

No, I provided you the experience of one professional, and if you wish to pay the fees I will be happy to provide you with the studies.



Here's one I found that is not paywalled.

http://www.paedofiles.com/main/wp-content/uploads/downloads/2012/12/pedophiles.pdf


Oh, lookey. Here's another one. Not as current as I would like but no pesky pay wall...

"Research has demonstrated that repeat offenders account for a disproportionate amount of crime and that offenders released from prison are arrested at rates 30 to 45 times higher than the general population (Rosenfeld, Wallman, & Formango, 2005). As a result, there is widespread recognition today that recidivism has a direct impact on public safety and that recidivism reduction should be a key goal of the criminal justice system. This is particularly true with regard to crimes that are sexual in nature, given their impact on individual victims and the larger community (see chapter 1, "Incidence and Prevalence of Sexual Offending," in the Adult section)."


Chapter 5: Adult Sex Offender Recidivism | Sex Offender Management Assessment and Planning Initiative

Still not seeing anything that supports 100% recidivism.

 

[GaryDog]

Compared to the resources we provide in terms of treatment for drug addicts and even spousal abuser, do, we do not "treat them pretty well."

Sure we do. They aren't curable and we don't pump bullets into their brain pans like we ought to.

And what's your expertise in this matter? Judging by your choice of words, my guess is you're no smarter than the OP.

What's yours? Personal experience? I've heard from many sources for many years they MAY alter behavior but the desire stays.

So in other words it's exactly like drug and alcohol addiction. Thank you for conceding the point finally

What point did I concede? You make up arguments and victories so you can live with your pathetic self? People do overcome drugs and alcohol in this reality but they have nothing to do with seeing a sex object when looking at a child. That means your brain is corrupt and as far as I am concerned, can be disposed of.

Drug and alcohol addicts continue to have desire for drugs and alcohol. They're addicts for life. That's no different than what you described for sex offenders, and it is totally in line with my argument this entire time. The nature of their addiction isn't relevant to our conversation.

Again, thanks for conceding the point.

 

[GaryDog]

What you don't say leaves too much room for conjecture. You make it appear that your wife was raped by this guy and gets triggered when she sees him. Is that true?

No. My wife's assailant is not my uncle. Two totally different criminals doing very different things to different girls in different parts of the world. She and I just make it a point to try and a out socializing with criminals in general and sexual criminals particularly. We're funny like thst.

From the charges and circumstances, photography business, child endangerment, did he go to prison for kiddie porn?

No. There were no pornography charges levied in his case. He taped girls changing clothes and exposure get himself to underage girls. No physical contact was ever alleged.

And you and Jesus disagree on that.

 

[GaryDog]

Just a thought. Keep in mind a Peeping Tom is a lot different than a rapist. So if this relative of yours was a flasher or a Peeping Tom he's not really a rapist he's just a pervert and your wife needs to be reminded that all guys are a little perverted. If you didn't hurt anyone which I'm not sure if you did or didn't then don't act like he's raping women

He pled guilty to Child Endangerment and Invasion of Privacy related to secretly taping underage girls getting changed in his home photography studio and exposing himself to some of those girls. No physical contact was ever alleged to have occured.

My wife and I both understand that these activities don't constitute rape. We just don't care. He's a six offender and we don't want anything to do with him if possible.

So don't. But also don't be surprised if your family is more forgiving and less callous and hateful than you. From your posts, it seems most people are.

 

[sealybobo]

Just a thought. Keep in mind a Peeping Tom is a lot different than a rapist. So if this relative of yours was a flasher or a Peeping Tom he's not really a rapist he's just a pervert and your wife needs to be reminded that all guys are a little perverted. If you didn't hurt anyone which I'm not sure if you did or didn't then don't act like he's raping women

He pled guilty to Child Endangerment and Invasion of Privacy related to secretly taping underage girls getting changed in his home photography studio and exposing himself to some of those girls. No physical contact was ever alleged to have occured.

My wife and I both understand that these activities don't constitute rape. We just don't care. He's a six offender and we don't want anything to do with him if possible.

So don't. But also don't be surprised if your family is more forgiving and less callous and hateful than you. From your posts, it seems most people are.

Well we also don't have to deal with the guy either. I might feel different if it was me. I have this neighbor who's on the sex offenders list. I don't have any more conversation with the guy than hello. Maybe I asked him about paddle boards because I saw he had one and I was carrying mine. So I'll be nice, but I don't want to be his buddy.

Anathema and his wife don't feel comfortable pretending nothing happened. The guy creeps them out and it doesn't seem like they are capable of hiding it. So what to do? Do you cause a scene? It sounds like eventually his wife will take out what happened to her on the guy eventually. And Anathema will lash out and the poor guy, who really didn't hurt anyone and for god sakes he spent 8 years in jail.

But we all believe time in jail makes you a better criminal. It's not about rehabilitation. AND, we all know once a slime ball always a slime ball. You may not act on it but you know he's a perv.

If women could read our minds they wouldn't want anything to do with any of us. If my boss knew I loved her perfectly painted toes, or that I wanted to put her feet in my mouth, do you think she could work with me? LOL.