How the hell are you supposed to FEEL?

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  1. Cecilie1200
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    A friend of mind just died in a traffic accident last night. He was on his motorcyle and a car t-boned him in an intersection.

    All of our friends were crying their eyes out today, and posting soppy, sloppy emotional poems on his Facebook page. And some bitch I never heard of before showed up and changed his profile to show how they were all in love and involved and shit, which is news to me since he was still trying to get in my pants as recently as three days ago.

    I honestly don't even know what I'm supposed to feel at this point. I'm upset, obviously, but if I wasn't shitfaced drunk, I probably wouldn't even be able to cry. Until about an hour ago, it didn't even feel real. I kept checking my phone, expecting a text from him telling me it was a mistake. And who the hell is this total stranger on his profile, telling me they were "in love" and that all these changes were things he was "intending" to do?

    How the hell do you be 23 years old, with your entire life ahead of you and all kinds of plans and dreams, and then just not exist in the next moment, with no one to mourn you except family members who didn't understand you and people who didn't even know you well enough to be able to call and find out when your funeral is?
     
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    I am sooooo sorry for your loss.

    I am not even going to try to make ya feel better.... impossible right now.

    Just dont drink too much. It will just make it 10 times worse.

    I remember being 23, and thats too f'ing young to die, and exactly why I dont own a motorcycle. Its the other drivers that worry me.

    Again I am so sorry for your loss.
     
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    Sorry for your loss. It's never easy losing friends.
     
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    Getting in touch with your feelings isn't as necessarily easy as most of us assume it is.

    I didn't FEEL anything when my mother died.

    It took me some time before the reality of the event really took hold of me.

    This is perfectly normal.

    Whatever you feel right now is what you need to feel.
     
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    That's very tragic. It's never easy.
    Hang in there.
     
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    Cecilie . . . so very, very sorry to hear this. What an awful thing to have happen to anyone let alone someone so very young. Hang in there . . . .
     
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    It is traumatic. Life is going along and suddenly there is a hole in your life. A person who you counted on, who was there to talk to, to laugh with and to enjoy life with is gone. Emptiness is left, a feeling of emptiness in your chest, your heart. It is so ... aching. A life, promising life gone in a second. Yet life for the living must go on. They will always live in our hearts and they would want us to go on with life. All we can do is cherish those memories and show them respect and love and live our lives to the fullest we can.
     
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    He wasn't close to his mom, there being some religious issues between them, so not many of us know how to get in touch with her and find out about the funeral. We're working on that. Meanwhile, we are all getting together at his favorite local bar on Friday evening to hold a wake for him.

    One more thing: for the love of God, if you're going to ride a motorcycle, WEAR A HELMET.
     
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    What a tragedy. I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(
     
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    Cecilie, I am so very sorry for your loss, and understand the feelings you are having. Time. Only time, will help you accept this tragedy. I am glad you wanted to come here and share with people you have known over time and who care.

    Athena..
     

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