Friends, enemies and strangers. We exaggerate the positive qualities of our friends, while ignoring or minimizing their flaws. We do the opposite with our enemies. We exaggerate their negative qualities, ignore or minimize their positive qualities and we are indifferent to strangers. How can one develop an equal, kind, regard for "friend, enemy and stranger"? http://www.untaming.com/Archive3.html I spent about a month one time contemplating this topic. It's pretty illuminating.