Friends, enemies and strangers.

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    Friends, enemies and strangers. We exaggerate the positive qualities of our friends, while ignoring or minimizing their flaws. We do the opposite with our enemies. We exaggerate their negative qualities, ignore or minimize their positive qualities and we are indifferent to strangers.

    How can one develop an equal, kind, regard for "friend, enemy and stranger"?


    http://www.untaming.com/Archive3.html

    I spent about a month one time contemplating this topic. It's pretty illuminating.
     
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    How it works is you spend a lot of time contemplating why you label, this or that person, friend, an enemy or a stranger. For me, an enemy is someone who doesn't me to be happy.
     
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    I will assume that this is the thread you directed me to are talking about sky.


    So you are asking me how i label people... with me....people earn their labels as far as i am concerned.


    My first post on this forum.

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    Describe a friend. For me, my friends know me well and they love and accept me as I am. They want me to be happy. They support me in my goals. They exaggerate my positive qualities and they minimize my negative ones.

    My enemies want me to be unhappy. They delight in causing harm. They exaggerate my negative qualities and ignore or minimize my positive ones.

    Strangers are neutral.
     
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    Who the hell has 'enemies'? Damn, that's some pathetic shit.
     
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    That would make them all friends.

    Not really sure that's possible.
     
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    Do i not except you for who and what you are?
    Have i ever told you to fuck off or fuck you?
    Did i or did i not respect your limits on what can and cant be said in regards to shoving bullshit up your ass?
    Have i sent you mean spirited neg reps?
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    If you think friend are only their to support your goals, ideas and whims... and do not challenge you on anything.... you need some better friends who are real friends and are not yes men.

    True friends will kick your ass when you are being an idiot or think you are getting yourself into trouble. Good or bad they will voice their opinion...regardless if you like it or not.

    Friends do not always have to agree. Friends do not always have to like each other. Friends are the ones who will show up when you are on your last leg and help you up. Friends are the ones who know every evil thing about you and still like you. Friends are the ones who like you in spite what others think of you.

    A friend sees you truly...and honestly. Good and bad, without exaggeration either way.



    how is that for a start?
     
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    Sky sees the world in black/white terms. You either agree with her at all times, and in all ways, or you are an enemy. It would be funny if it weren't so sad.
     
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    Haven't you ever seen "The Godfather?" ;)
     
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    Sky,

    I think the premise is flawed. We don't always do what your opening sentence says we do to begin with.
     

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