Fashion and Etiquette

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    I never realized just how hard it is to get people to admit there's a well-mannered, appropriate way to do things.

    Here's the scenario: my friend, Blair, invited me to attend a symphony performance that's coming up. Naturally, as a female, my first thought is, "What am I going to wear?" While I have a very general idea of what is traditionally appropriate attire, I also know that it's likely a bit out of date, and also that this is Tucson, where dress standards are often a bit relaxed due to the climate.

    I want to tell you, it's damned near impossible to get anyone to admit that there's even a generalized standard to the way people dress for such an event. The symphony's official position is "We don't care, as long as your butt's in a seat". Which attitude I can understand, since it's not like they're printing their own money on ticket sales.

    Nevertheless, this is important to me, because I want to look nice without feeling either overdressed or underdressed. Any suggestions from you other ladies out there? Or cross-dressing men, if we have any? I think I must be the only woman in North America who doesn't actually own the ubiquitous "little black dress".
     
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    I think the little black dress is about the safest bet. If you don't have that, try a little blue, or red dress.

    Otherwise, dress slacks, dress shoes, ruffly shirt with a tailored jacket.

    But what do I know..... The closest I've been to a symphony in the last 10 years are school programs. I usually wear jeans to those.
     
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    What the hell?
    I buy herself LBDs every few months.
     
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    Without knowing what's available in your wardrobe, it's difficult to provide specific advice.

    I go to the SF Symphony on a fairly recurring basis. Matinee performance are a bit more casual (I've even see people wearing jeans...eek!).

    For evening performance, folks make more of an effort. A nice pants suit, tailored slack with a frilly blouse and jacket, sweater separates, skirt with blouse and shawl, cocktail dress...all are appropriate. The important thing is how you feel - if you like the way you look and are comfortable, you'll have a more enjoyable time.
     
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    Only problem being that I really don't own a black evening dress. :)

    I think, this being Tucson and us having cheap seats, a very simple mid-calf length dress in a quality fabric would probably work. As I recall, the closer you are to the orchestra, the nicer you're supposed to dress. Somewhere between church and prom, I think.
     
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    Definitely Not Prom! The formal stuff is only for the society-charity-opening night stuff.
     
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    I'm planning to make myself something, since I haven't had occasion to go anywhere that required more than nice church clothes for a while.

    Normally, I wouldn't stress, since attitude makes up for a lot, but I know it's really important to Blair that I'm the only woman he knows who can fill the role of "old-fashioned, proper lady" in his life, so I want to do it right for his sake, y'know?

    Being poor sucks. You wind up so out of touch with fashions after a while.
     
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    Decent business/sunday dress should be fine.
     
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    Oh, I know. And the symphony, opera, ballet, etc. should never be that . . . fluffy, anyway.
     

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