Facebook behavior

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    I registered for Facebook about 2 years ago. I thought about my first love, a Bosnian girl. I dated her in early teenager age when I was still living in Germany, then her parents decided to move back to Bosnia, and there she was gone. Dust in the wind.
    Now to Facebook again... I chatted with her a bit 2 years ago, she has married has a c daughter and they all happily live in Sarajevo.
    Somehow, I did not login to Facebook again.

    Now I again log-in. I see many old friends, some of them were once very very close to me, but we lost out of sight. Everyone goes his own way, so is life.

    What is your Facebook behavior if you meet discover such people there? Do you befriend them, or do you just have friends which also do play a part in your real life?
     
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    2 years after I have logged-in again, I saw she has removed me as a friend.
    There are many friends from the past on Facebook, some of them whom I probably never will see again due to the distance.
    I am thinking if I shall contact them or if that is another time waste. I don't know.
    I justed wanted to hear some experiences of yours.
     
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    My cousin just found his sister who no one in the family has talked to in 14 years. It was a weird deal. My aunt lives in Oregon, he lives in Mississippi and it turns out the sister lives in Little Rock ,AR. Their mother flew back here to Arkansas when my grandfather became ill, he subsequently passed away, and my cousin from Mississippi was coming up for the funeral , the day before he was to leave to come up he was on FB and just happened to come accross her. No one had any idea where the other was. She had fallen into a bad crowd, and we'll leave that at that, but long story short, the brother got her out of LR and she is currently living in my grandfather's house up here in northern Arkansas back with her family to help her recover from some pretty serious problems.

    Without FB she would have been lost to the family forever and turns out she lives 4 hours in either direction of family.
     
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    Yes, I would. I usually lose track of people because I move or stop running into them at school, etc. If I liked them once, I'll like them again (usually).

    My facebook policy on friending people is rather open. If someone likes a comment I have made and wants to friend me, I'll allow it because my private life is not on there and I have my settings arranged so that my friends cannot see my friend list. This protects my child and the people I love IRL, and so I'm a happy camper.

    If you wish to use such a setting yourself, here's how:

    1. From the Privacy Settings page (click Account first)
    Follow the "View settings" link under the "Basic Directory Information" section of the Privacy Settings page. Adjust the "See my friend list" setting.

    2. Directly from your profile (click Profile first)
    Click the pencil icon in the Friends box on your profile. Then, click "Change Visibility Settings."

    3. You must use the Custom option, which allows you to authorize certain people to view your list of friends. If you choose the "only me" option, no one but you will be able to view your friend's list. If you specify a list of names there, only those people and yourself will be able to view your list of friends.
     
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    I lost my ( then very young) daughter in a divorce in the early 70s, back while I was serving in the NAV.

    I've reestablished contact with her thanks to FB.

    But we're strangers now.

    She's a grown middle aged woman and making really meaningful contact now is pretty much impossible.

    You can never go home again, folks.

    It isn't there anymore.
     
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    This.
    My reconnection with people I went to H.S. with lasted for about a week, I think they just wanted to see who turned out to be losers. After that I just got status updates on their FaceBook games and Farmville bullshit.

    I cut my "friends" down to about 25 or so and now my Facebook is limited to immediate family and only a few real friends.
     
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    The instructions I gave above will prevent anyone but you from seeing your friends list. However, if you have "acquaintences" as well as friends and family friended on your facebook account, you also need to shield the posts written by others from view by anyone but you.

    The newsfeed feature is controlled separately and differently. Facebook provides much less control on that feature because on the one hand if a user wants to send sensitive information to another user, it should be done via direct messaging, not a person's Wall or through the public board. On the other hand, if facebook were to restrict the newsfeed to only Friends and did not include Friends of Friends, then the possibilities of Friends of Friends to make additional connections would be considerably limited, and the social interaction would not be encouraged.

    Facebook allows members to somewhat control their newsfeed. For example, I believe they allow a user to receive feeds from up to 250 users at a time. Users can change not only the users that they receive feeds from but they can also control somewhat the amount of information that they receive from a specific user.

    To control the viewers of your newsfeed, go to Account Settings----->Privacy Settings----->Sharing on Facebook---->Customize Settings (this is a hotlink in the gray box)----->Things Others Share---->Customize---->Only By Me.

    I hope that'll make using facebook more enjoyable for you, ekrem.
     
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    Facebook has allowed me to receive almost instantaneous pictures of friends and family scattered all over the world.

    I have located friends from the Military I haven't seen or talked to since the early 70's.

    I found my Prom date whom I haven't seen since 1971.

    It was great to talk with (or type to) each and every one of them. In fact 2 of my old units are having reunions, I found out on facebook. One I may go to the other probably not.

    But Facebook is the easiest way besides the telephone to get quick updates from family.
     
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    I am starting to get advertisements or something on facebook. I mean set to me as a message. What is that about?
     
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    1. We at FACEBOOK are committed to and respect your absolute privacy.

    2. You look cute when you are sleeping.
     
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