Do you think it's okay..........

[Joz]

I know that I formed my opinion based on how I've seen you project yourself to others, and in various threads, as well as PMs. If that's not an opinion you want someone to form, perhaps you're projecting the wrong image. Just my opinion - you're not shy.

I understand the only thing you have to go on is our association here. And some of the people that know me would agree with you, but that is only on a certain level of familiarity.
When I graduated high school, one of the teachers I'd known all 4 years, wrote in my year book that I was a hard person to get to know....but that it was worth it.
That is why I said maybe it's something else and not shyness. I was hoping you might have something else to add.

 

[Joz]

well tell your ex to fuck off and go watch some porn !! :teeth:

The only reason I mentioned it was because you had asked me if I expected Mm to accept my traits. Sometimes it's just how others perceive us and other times it's just how much a person can live with. The ex perceives I'm stubborn because I wouldn't go back to him and he feels that's because of pride. It isn't.

 

[Nienna]

I understand the only thing you have to go on is our association here. And some of the people that know me would agree with you, but that is only on a certain level of familiarity.
When I graduated high school, one of the teachers I'd known all 4 years, wrote in my year book that I was a hard person to get to know....but that it was worth it.
That is why I said maybe it's something else and not shyness. I was hoping you might have something else to add.

Starla, you are probably like me. There is a difference between shyness and reserve. A shy person has a lot of FEAR about meeting new people or being in new situations. But once she feels comfortable, may be incredibly open and talkative (That's me ). A reserved person always holds himself apart; others may never fully understand what goes on in in his mind, no matter how long they have known him (My BIL is this way). These are just my definitions.

 

[Nienna]

Wow! This thread has really gone off-topic!

 

[Joz]

Starla, you are probably like me. There is a difference between shyness and reserve. A shy person has a lot of FEAR about meeting new people or being in new situations. But once she feels comfortable, may be incredibly open and talkative (That's me ). A reserved person always holds himself apart; others may never fully understand what goes on in in his mind, no matter how long they have known him (My BIL is this way). These are just my definitions.

Thanks Mom. I think you've hit upon the right description. Couple that with a little self-conciousness.....
Mm playing these clubs doesn't help. I don't drink, therefore I don't get up and shake my derriere (I do slow dance) so I do ALOT of watching. Mm knows half the country and when he's talking to someone, I don't just go & jump in a conversation. Most of the time it's shop or guy talk. I appear to be a real oddball, I think.

 

[Joz]

For being on stage, Mm is very 'reserved' in his private life. It's a wonder we ever got to know each other. And sometimes it's still difficult.
People think they know him & spew information (as they see it) about him as tho' it is gospel.

He just said, as far as your comment Mom, that we tend to listen to a person talk and think, Oh you're one of those people.....not rational or in my sane world, so we just don't bother.

 

[Bonnie]

Starla, you are probably like me. There is a difference between shyness and reserve. A shy person has a lot of FEAR about meeting new people or being in new situations. But once she feels comfortable, may be incredibly open and talkative (That's me ). A reserved person always holds himself apart; others may never fully understand what goes on in in his mind, no matter how long they have known him (My BIL is this way). These are just my definitions.

I would have to say I am reserved, but not aloof, more just selective about whom I open up to or about what I open up about. I always had a small circle of very good friends with whom I would confide in, and a larger circle of acquaintances that I would never consider opening up to. Shyness is in all of us which comes from insecurity, but the more secure we become the more the shyness goes away, IMO

 

[Joz]

I would have to say I am reserved, but not aloof, more just selective about whom I open up to or about what I open up about. I always had a small circle of very good friends with whom I would confide in, and a larger circle of acquaintances that I would never consider opening up to. Shyness is in all of us which comes from insecurity, but the more secure we become the more the shyness goes away, IMO

And I am envious of this. I know women who know intimate details about each other and never judge; are the closet of friends.
I learned at a very early age not to trust. I will open up but only so much. I never bare my soul....to anyone.