Do you spank your kids?

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    i see its been a while since ive been to that site!!
    your right, i agree with alot of what he stated...lol
    Guilty!
     
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    Im seething; beyond pissed; insulted; infuriated and plain out MAD.

    This is total and utter bullshit to the enth degree. The person who wrote this should have his ass beaten - preferably by ME.

    Why am I this fucking angry? because I have 2 children. I do NOT beat them. And they are not 'worthless heathens'.

    I feel I can speak about this with some authority - I know of what I speak. My father beat the shit out of me until I graduated high school, started college and then married. I never stayed out late, I never made a grade in my life UNDER a 95, AND I never started or ended a sentence without 'sir' or 'mam'. The list goes on. This man was so cruel that I spent MANY a day in the ER, once to have a retainer removed from the roof of my mouth due to him back handing me so severely. Why did he do that? I dont know. Neither does he. I confronted him on this years later (like just last year) and he regrets it because I cannot see my way past it to forgive him - I try - but Im just not there yet.

    My first husband did the same thing to me - not the children. Until I left his sorry ass then laughed hysterically when he cried over it. Why did he do the same thing? My father said it would be good to 'keep me in line'.

    When DK met me, I was a pathetic little person who couldnt even look people in the eyes. I chose to REFUSE to be a victim.

    Victimization. Thats what beating your kids creates. If you think it creates respect, then your just a pathetic, ignorant MORON. Period. It creates fear. If you are so less of a person that your children cannot respect you out of love, then you have more problems then you thought.

    Beat your children? HELL NO. Those that would beat their kids have obviously had them simply to gratify an over inflated ego which is PITIFUL enough as it is. ANYONE that does this (beating their kids - or any child for that matter), or who agrees with it OR who advocates it in ANY way should be ASHAMED of yourself. Then you should have the shit beat out of YOU. Preferably by ME.

    The problem is that we live in a society of victimization. Either you are part of the answer or part of the problem. And even though Im contradicting myself to a degree, if youre part of the problem, then you deserve to be beaten within an inch of YOUR life for years on end by a person that looks 10 times bigger than you, to you. Thats what your kids see when you smack them.

    This has been the first thing on this board Ive seen to really get my ire up. CHILD BEATERS SHOULD BE ASHAMED.....ASHAMED! And then, they should be taught a lesson.....slowly and painfully....and to be honest, I want to watch - then participate.
     
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    I forgot to finish the part where I brought up DK (I dont get mad often, but when I do, I get mad ALL over from the tips of my red hair, throughout my italian/cajun self and then I just EXPLODE)

    DK worked with me to CONVINCE me that I didnt HAVE to be a victim. And the children are not afraid of him or me for that matter. ANd guess what? They behave WAY better over here than at their father's.

    Im still seething MAD at the stupidity of this, the cruelty of this, etc. Great way to prove youre in control.....beat a child - someone way smaller and weaker than you....yeah. that makes you a REAL big, strong man (or woman for that matter)
     
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    You need to relax...it's just satire.
     
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    sorry.

    there are very few things that get my ire up - this is one of the few.
     
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    What the author, in my opinion, is doing is 180 degrees of what popular culture tells parents nowadays. He's taking the extreme opposite view for the shock value.

    Generally, however, in principle, he's right on the money.
     
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    Please clarify for me your meaning regarding his being right on the money? Thanks.
     
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    Kids need to be disciplined. Kids will learn best by corporal punishment. I believe the author is making a drastic case that by beating (appropriately - don't argue semantics here) our kids, we show we love them enough to care about what they do, how they behave. We make behaviour IMPORTANT...Fear is a GOOD motivator.
     
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    I've learned that fear is NOT a good motivator, just a motivator. It only re-inforces the negative side of consequences and does not teach the child that good behavior is rewarded, only that bad behavior has consequences.
     

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