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Generally - I'm supportive of it. While I can't match this guy's enthusiasm...I share a lot of his views
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Guilty!The skull thump. A quick blow usually dealt to the side or back of the head. Simply flick them in the head with your finger.
Originally posted by KLSuddeth
sorry.
there are very few things that get my ire up - this is one of the few.
Originally posted by KLSuddeth
Please clarify for me your meaning regarding his being right on the money? Thanks.
Fear is a GOOD motivator
Originally posted by DKSuddeth
I've learned that fear is NOT a good motivator, just a motivator. It only re-inforces the negative side of consequences and does not teach the child that good behavior is rewarded, only that bad behavior has consequences.
Originally posted by DKSuddeth
...... It only re-inforces the negative side of consequences and does not teach the child that good behavior is rewarded, only that bad behavior has consequences. [/B]
Originally posted by dmp
I think that 'negative reinforment' term is a bunch of hippy b.s.
Teaching kids that bad behavior has severe consequences is MORE important, while they are young, than rewards for good behaviour.
Id est, I'd rather have my kid NOT do bad, than to do GOOD for the sake of a reward.
Originally posted by DKSuddeth
and thats why we have moral decay and a spoiled rotten generation growing up now. We don't have kids and young adults treating each other with respect and kindness today because theres no reward for being kind. All we have is bullies in the schoolyard, street gangs, drive by shootings, and columbine type incidents all with the childs outlook of trying not to get caught and suffer bad consequences.
Call it hippy BS all you like, it won't change the fact that positive reinforcement has better results than negative reinforcement.
While its necessary to teach children that bad behaviour has consequences, its not as important as teaching them good behaviour has its own rewards. It also leads to the 'I'm not responsible' or 'victim mentality' that pervades our society now.
negative reinforcement as a primary source of discipline only enforces the belief that its better not to get caught than it is to be good.
Originally posted by dmp
Lemme get this straight...you feel we have moral decay, yet fewer parents are SPANKING nowadays? The moral decay is from NOT spanking kids...in part.
I can PROMISE you that if Bullies were spanked at home, they'd not be bullies. I can promise you if parents of gang members showed their kids the belt more often, the kid would likely NOT be in a gang.
The "Positive Reinforcement" is NOWHERE near strong enough to keep kids from poor choices. Usually, kids do something bad because their reward (if not caught) is greater than if they didn't do it.
Pascifism never solved anything.
You are 180 degrees from right thinking about this...
Darin