dmp
Senior Member
I can't believe three of among the smartest people I know on this board are having such trouble with very simple concepts of 'labels' and 'duties' and shit.
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dmp said:Sharing details of MY marital spats with a few close friends SAVED my married.
dmp said:I can't believe three of among the smartest people I know on this board are having such trouble with very simple concepts of 'labels' and 'duties' and shit.
I have no conceptual shit problems!dmp said:I can't believe three of among the smartest people I know on this board are having such trouble with very simple concepts of 'labels' and 'duties' and shit.
misterblu said:We're not having trouble. We just realize that word = label in this instance.
http://72.14.203.104/search?q=cache:6dNomuXVVcEJ:www.m-w.com/dictionary/label+a+descriptive+or+identifying+word+or+phrase&hl=en&gl=us&ct=clnk&cd=2
misterblu said:Personally, I think that sharing the details of marital spats, with others outside of a marriage, creates more problems than it's worth.
Joz said:
Unless it is a trusted counselor/clergy, someone neutral
So then your spouse IS your best friend, but also more.dmp said:It's a simple case of you guys being stuck on things that 'brief well' such as "Marry your best friend!!" and shit.
Saying "My wife is my BEST FRIEND" sure sounds nice, doesn't it?
But it's BS. A wife in a GOOD marriage...in a REAL marriage (good and real as defined by dmp) is So much MORE and DIFFERENT than a best friend.
5stringJeff was just in my office - he understands now.
The ClayTaurus said:So then your spouse IS your best friend, but also more.
dmp said:No - she's the person who knows me most/best...but not a best friend. A Best Friend is somebody else.
5stringJeff said:And herein is where Darin and I had a ten-minute discussion about the terms "best friend," "close friend," and what not.
When Darin says "Best Friend," he means "neutral, trusted confidant." We both agreed that a spouse has all of those qualities which a close friend has: trust, common interests, and the enjoyment of being around each other. Darin's point is that someone has to have a "Best Friend" apart from one's spouse.
Darin, correct me if I'm wrong on this.
The ClayTaurus said:So D has a different definition for "best friend" than the rest of us. Ok.
Uh, no.dmp said:...neutral and trusted like a....(wait for it...)
(c'mon....)(waiiiiiiiiit...)Best friend?
Joz said:Uh, no.
Most, but not all, 'best friend' take sides. Rare is the friend who can look at you when you've told them something & say, " you're full of sh*t"; you're spouse is right on this one." We choose friends as a support system, people we have something in common with, people we like. We never meet a person & say, "Wow, that guy r-e-a-l-l-y irritates me; I think I'll see if we can be friends".
And too, as I mentioned to Nienna, some things could prove to be embarrassing in a family or friendly gathering, should some private matter of confidentiality slip out. And I have known people to let it "slip out" purposely.
All I'm saying is, there is a very fine line here.
Then I'd hang on to that friend, for they are rare, indeed.dmp said:I would NEVER have a best friend who didn't have the scrote to tell me when I'm full of shit. Best friends OWE it to one-another to be honest. Some of my closest friends are those with whom I have fundamental differences. If I wanted somebody to take sides, should I need advice about my wife, I'd confide in Mary.
dmp said:It's a simple case of you guys being stuck on things that 'brief well' such as "Marry your best friend!!" and shit.
Saying "My wife is my BEST FRIEND" sure sounds nice, doesn't it?
But it's BS. A wife in a GOOD marriage...in a REAL marriage (good and real as defined by dmp) is So much MORE and DIFFERENT than a best friend.
5stringJeff was just in my office - he understands now.
dmp said:...neutral and trusted like a....(wait for it...)
(c'mon....)
(waiiiiiiiiit...)
Best friend?