In fact, to label her my 'best friend' would be a bit of a downer, I'd guess.
That's weird.
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In fact, to label her my 'best friend' would be a bit of a downer, I'd guess.
Nienna said:Of course your spouse shouldn't be your ONLY friend, but why shouldn't your spouse be the closest person to you?
There is a difference in 'girltalk' than what I'm referring to.Nienna said:.... I also believe that women need other women. My husband is a wonderful man, but he's WAAAAYYYY too much of a "guy" to be my "best friend." I need my girlfriends. There's some stuff that only another woman would completely understand.
Totally agree. Details about what goes on in our bedroom should stay between us. My husband is a true gentleman in this respect. I feel like I can completely trust him about this. I am worse. Sometimes, I start talking, and I say say more than I should have before I remember to turn off my mouth.Joz said:There is a difference in 'girltalk' than what I'm referring to.
I once knew a woman whom I found out was dating my baby's doctor. She went into detail of their beroom activities to my mother while I went outside with my son. But I still got to hear it second hand. It was embarrassing for me to have to stand in the examining room with this man knowing what I did about him. I wonder how he would have felt if he'd known what she was telling.
How would you feel if you're at a barbeque and one of your hubby's friends made a joke about some intimate detail you'd shared? That is what I'm referring to. Not the kind of conversation women need from each other.
Joz said:There is a difference in 'girltalk' than what I'm referring to.
I once knew a woman whom I found out was dating my baby's doctor. She went into detail of their beroom activities to my mother while I went outside with my son. But I still got to hear it second hand. It was embarrassing for me to have to stand in the examining room with this man knowing what I did about him. I wonder how he would have felt if he'd known what she was telling.
How would you feel if you're at a barbeque and one of your hubby's friends made a joke about some intimate detail you'd shared? That is what I'm referring to. Not the kind of conversation women need from each other.
I think most women are guilty of this. Especially if we're really upset about something. We need to talk, plain & simple.Nienna said:Totally agree. Details about what goes on in our bedroom should stay between us. My husband is a true gentleman in this respect. I feel like I can completely trust him about this. I am worse. Sometimes, I start talking, and I say say more than I should have before I remember to turn off my mouth.
5stringJeff said:I fail to see how a spouse could not become one's best friend. That term doesn't necessarily exclude intimacy, sex, etc. It simply means that there is no one else you would rather turn to for friendship than your spouse. That's what good relationships are made of.
dmp said:I'm not saying a spouse could NOT become somebody's best friend in practice. I'm saying it's Healthy for each spouse to have a Best Friend - somebody OTHER than the person with whom they are fighting.
5stringJeff said:I would absolutely agree that one should have close friends outside of the marriage, whom one can confide in about tough issues, including marital spats. But I think your spouse ought to be your closest friend of all.
5stringJeff said:I would absolutely agree that one should have close friends outside of the marriage, whom one can confide in about tough issues, including marital spats. But I think your spouse ought to be your closest friend of all.
The ClayTaurus said:We're all just playing word games at this point.
The ClayTaurus said:We're all just playing word games at this point.
Jesus. You're playing words games with the actual phrase "word game."dmp said:Not a word game - a label game.
Friends < Spouses.
Best Friend - a person (generally of the same gender) who is the friend who knows you best.
Wife/Husband - a intimate person (only of the opposite gender) who knows you better than you may know yourself. And stuff.
The ClayTaurus said:Jesus. You're playing words games with the actual phrase "word game."
The ClayTaurus said:Jesus. You're playing words games with the actual phrase "word game."
misterblu said:Personally, I think that sharing the details of marital spats, with others outside of a marriage, creates more problems than it's worth. I agree with everything else you stated.