Christian, how do we genuinely love those we, um, avoid? 1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal (1 Cor 1) Seriously, I struggle with this at times. We are commanded to LOVE each other, and thats usually easy. I just focus on the good traits of others and try my best to ignore the others. But out of maybe 200 people, there is always one that is just mean-spirited, wants to criticize everybody, always sees the bad, likes to correct everyone, likes to fight, etc. (no I haven't seen this here yet) If an atheist does this its easy to love them because you know they dont know the Lord. But when its a Christian, how do you cope? Usually Ill get attacked and Ill just get into a catfight with em and that pretty much puts up boundaries that I like and we avoid each other. But, um, I dont think thats what Im supposed to do. So then you try to WALK in the love that you really dont feel. Ive seen mature Christians that I admire do this and I respect them SO much. But when I try to do that, it feels fake. It also makes me wonder when I see these wise mature Christians pour their love on me, if they really mean it. Because I know for a fact that some of the times wise elders pour out their love on younger Christians, they KNOW the meanness that particular person just exhibited to someone else. So my question is, if God tells us to love someone were having a hard time loving, do we put our feelings aside and walk the walk? But if the walk isnt true How do you love those you have a hard time loving? If you are one that actually does this, love on people in spite of how you really feel, please be sure to communicate that because I have often wondered.