"What about the men who pay child support to children they rarely get to see? If the woman has full custody and he only gets to see the kids every second weekend, why should he pay child support when he isn't even allowed to see his kids when he wants? "
Because his child doesn't stop eating simply because he isn't there.
"And why can't the woman get a job and provide for HER kids herself, without seeing the man as a cash cow?"
Who says the mother doesn't have a job?
"And what about those men right now who are paying child support for a child that isn't even biologically theirs? "
That's very rare, and I personally think it should be up to the man and not the courts.
"Men should be allowed to request paternity tests at the birth to make sure they are not going to be forced into paying thousands to raise someone else's child."
Paternity tests are done before child support orders are set, as long as the father requests one.
"Years ago I heard of a man who had four children. He was paying support for all of them, equaling thousands of dollars. He discovered that only ONE of those children was his, the other three were fathered by his best friend - his neighbor. He took the ex to court but the judge decided that because he had been paying support for so many years, it would be harmful to the kids for this to stop, so he was ordered to continue paying child support to all of those children.
How the hell is that fair?"
It's not fair. However child cases put the needs of the children above the man and the woman. He was their father, and it would have been devastating for those children to lose him at that point simply because he doesn't want to pay child support anymore.
Because his child doesn't stop eating simply because he isn't there.
"And why can't the woman get a job and provide for HER kids herself, without seeing the man as a cash cow?"
Who says the mother doesn't have a job?
"And what about those men right now who are paying child support for a child that isn't even biologically theirs? "
That's very rare, and I personally think it should be up to the man and not the courts.
"Men should be allowed to request paternity tests at the birth to make sure they are not going to be forced into paying thousands to raise someone else's child."
Paternity tests are done before child support orders are set, as long as the father requests one.
"Years ago I heard of a man who had four children. He was paying support for all of them, equaling thousands of dollars. He discovered that only ONE of those children was his, the other three were fathered by his best friend - his neighbor. He took the ex to court but the judge decided that because he had been paying support for so many years, it would be harmful to the kids for this to stop, so he was ordered to continue paying child support to all of those children.
How the hell is that fair?"
It's not fair. However child cases put the needs of the children above the man and the woman. He was their father, and it would have been devastating for those children to lose him at that point simply because he doesn't want to pay child support anymore.
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