Thread title, I've avoided responding to this thread so far, but I'm going to take the leap now. I'll start with some cliff notes of my background in regards to child support. When I first got divorced, my wife and I managed to work out custody and support agreements without any attorneys. Both of us had the children's best interest in mind, so it wasn't difficult. We did an exact 50/50 custody, and since we both made about the same income, there was no need for a support agreement. I made slightly more than her and medical insurance was cheaper through my employer than through hers. A few years went by and she decided to relocate to another city, leaving me as the custodial parent. Again, without attorneys, we agreed to an equitable and fair amount of child support for her to pay. The problem arose when she failed to pay what we had agreed upon. I was forced to hire an attorney so that I could get court ordered child support. And, you are damn straight, Aristotle, child support isn't fair. The amount of child support that my attorney and my state said that my ex-wife was obligated to pay was ridiculously high. The ex-wife and I were still making about the same income, and I knew that If I was responsible for making the child support payments they were telling me that she had to make, I'd lose my house and have to live like a pauper to pay them. My attorney thought I was crazy, the family court judge thought I was crazy, because I only asked for a reasonable amount of child support that was about 60% of what the court system deemed as reasonable. The unfairness in child support is the amount the courts seem to think is reasonable, not the child support itself. My ex-wife paid her child support, I'm not sure she would have paid the (or could afford) the unreasonable amount the state determined with it's screwed up formula.