Opinion: What's Up With All These Out-of-Control, Bullying Parents? - ParentDish So. Is this child abuse? Or spare the rod, spoil the child? Personally, I think Mom is an idiot for not paying attention that her precious tub was being destroyed until AFTER it was destroyed. On the other hand, taking their piggy bank money and selling their toys I agree with. Makes them learn there is responsibility for actions. However, posting a pic of them on ebay is OTL.