I was coming from the perspective that some people may feel guilty or have a Low Self Image about the feelings they have.There's nothing wrong with having feelings. Remember that.Or:I actually agree with you.
But it's a bit more difficult if you are in a situation (say, you have a child that is like this) - where you can not just avoid them. This was more of a topic for discussion about all kinds of "bad communication" issues. I just brought up my own personal one.
There are some people where there are not real "issues" you just are different and can't understand the other person because you are so different (again, if possible, best to avoid OR try to focus on common ground).
I have found that too many time, people try to FORCE others into their way of thinking vs. either just minimizing contact or accepting that we are just different.
Not sure why that is so hard for people to do. Maybe has to do with how passionately you feel about issues etc.
Or you can sit down with them and talk with them like an adult, and tell them that the things they say really bother you and why they bother you (nicely), and ask them to please stop doing that.
Sit down and write on a piece of paper all your feelings from your perspective on one side of the paper
And then on the other side write down what you think the other person is thinking from their perspective.
It's called a thinking report.
We used when I was a youth counselor.
Good idea. Writing down your feelings is very good therapy. I did a lot of that when going through some very difficult times, and it does help to sort out your feelings.
Of course not, but there is a time and place, and there's nothing wrong with keeping them to yourself at least SOME of the time.
When it's okay to feel and think what you want as long as those thoughts and feelings don't lead to negative behavior (bx)