Once the government decided a license was required by partners to be deemed authorized to marry. They took over this debate and use it as a wedge to keep people swimming in the state box. There is absolutely no reason that any special perk should be obtained from marriage except the relationship itself. Any property, health related bindings, will or other contractual agreements should be obtained through the same means as any other contract. The only voice the state should have in this is upholding the rigths of individuals based on contractual agreements made. Until people realize that government has not role in your relationship except protecting your rights, this wedge issue will persist and we're the losers. But im sure you, your partner and the state will be overjoyed on your special day.