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    Has anybody ever given a friend or family member an ultimatum about going into alcohol rehab? I just did it to a ex-colleague (and friend). Took him into a hospital this morning. I'm pretty numb because I am beyond frustrated.
     
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    Nice job! It must have been very hard for you, but I'm pretty sure after he gets the treatment he needs, he will thank you.
     
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    Good for you!
     
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    Not for alcohol rehab but for mental health issues, so she wouldn't try to harm herself again.

    Good for you, I hope he is strong enough to want to change for himself and his loved ones.
     
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    Man, thanks guys. I am so tired and so numb. On the one hand I feel bad because I scared the crap out of him with the ultimatum (his job), on the other hand, I gave it a week's thought and concluded yesterday that it was the right thing to do.

    Now, who knows. He's scared about his job anyway.

    Eh, I'm just babbling. I heard so much irrationality from him and I kept my cool until the last hour of it. I was so worn out from it that I just couldn't hear one more whine and I told him to just STFU that I was sick of his bullshit and his job was finished.

    It's not finished, though, because he was at 'intake', so I said that out of pure meanness and feel a bit like shit for it.

    I will get over it, though.
     
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    I have dealt with similar situations when dealing with patients. Although I didn't have as close a personal stake in their issues, it can be extremely exasperating in dealing with someone who is being controlled by an addiction or a psychiatric disorder. Everything that they say is irrational, but that is only because they are trying to rationalize something that is clearly wrong.

    It's sort of like trying to argue with Terral.
     
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    [Emphasis added] I can't thank you enough for the laughs.

    And, physicians have their work cut out for them. Not only do they have to practice the medicine, they have to deal with the human personality and all that may bring. (I prefer the lab for good reason, I guess. ;))
     
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    My oldest brother had terrible bouts with booze. We were sharing an apartment at the time and lived outside the city limits. I called the Sheriff's office and was told they would come lock him up if I thought he'd do harm to himself or others. Well, I put that ultimatum to him and he straightened up- for a while. He eventually reverted to his ways, had a heart attack, and was dead at 49. I still feel guilt over it.
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss - a brother, no less.

    That alcohol addiction is something else. I am amazed how it gets a grip on some. I've never seen it up close and personal like that, and I drink from time to time.

    The alcohol killed him. Of course you know that and I wish you the best in getting some peace from guilt - the guilt won't do you or your brother (or his memory) any good because the guilt lies squarely on ethanol.
     

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