am i being petty?

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    a friend is getting married saturday....i am not invited to the wedding...small wedding at her mom's house family and close friends only....now this is a person i have taught stain glass etc...spend a lot of time with...etc...well it seems some friends are more equal than others...seems she has invited a couple to the wedding who are new comers to the "social circle" this has resulted in hurt feelings on several peoples part. marsh who is always a class act...admits her feelings are hurt but says we will all go....it is am's day and all. i am so pissed...and hurt. am i being petty...at this point i dont even want to go to the reception...which is gonna be a drunker party with bbq.

    my not going will be noticed and commented on. but my heart is just not in it now....i realize this could end our friendship for good but i feel like this whole thing has become a slap in the face to me and her older friends. marsh now says we dont have to dress up....and we will make the best of it...i have already rsvp ed as coming....

    what to do ...what to do.
     
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    if you don't go, "re-rsvp" that you are not coming. these other friends she invited to the wedding, are they bridesmaids?
     
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    My advice bones, tell your friend who is getting married how you feel. Give her a chance to explain to you her reason for not inviting you.

    If she gives a good honest reason forgive her and go to the reception, if she gives you some b.s. answer then you are not being petty but human.

    If you were my wife I would tell you to be the bigger woman and go to the reception regardless of your friend not inviting to the wedding, she did invite you to the reception right?
     
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    no they are not. matter of fact ..last week she was trashing the couple to me...

    when i told her i might not be able to get to the reception on time...cause of work...she tossed a fit....
    how could i chose my job over her blah blah fucking blah...
     
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    yes she invited me to the reception and has insisted that i get there on time even though she knows it caused a major hassle where i work. this going to her reception has already cost me a lot of money in lost time at work...my boss hired a woman to work so i could go to the wedding on time....well i had to split my time with her...then she quit last week. i dont care about that i am just hurt and now i am getting real pissed.

    yea da man says to go to reception and keep my mouth shut....he knows the odds of that happening are not good.
     
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    I don't think you're being petty. You're just hurt and disappointed. I hate it when friends disappoint you. It just stinks. Be the "bigger" person in this case. Go to the reception, drink, smile alot, and try to have a good time. Maybe, just maybe, you're friend over looked you because of a mistake. It's a busy time for her and maybe she just overlooked you out of accident. Give her the benefit of the doubt and go. If she discovers you aren't at the wedding she may remember she made a mistake and will feel badly about it. If she doesn't realize the mistake just let it go if the friendship means anything to you at all. Pick your battles. You may win the battle if you make a scene but you'll most likely loose the war.
     
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    At least go for the dog. Isn't he cute!

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    your job/livelihood is more important than one day. if she's so huffy, she should have invited you to the wedding. I wouldn't go.
     
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    Considering the circumstances I would not leave work early for her but I would show up at the reception.

    Did you ask her why she didn't invite you but invited other friends that were not family?
     
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    my head is about to explode...i got to do something....my other friends know how this is effecting several of us....marsh is more hurt than i am...but she is a class act..she was funny ...going...well we dont have to dress up now...

    *sighing*
     

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