The Wife and I took care of my mother for several years before we had to place her in assisted living. It would have gone much easier if my brother hadn't stolen damn near every dime she had. She had over 100k in the bank when dementia set in and she asked my brother to manage her money. I told her in no uncertain terms that it was a bad idea. She had put 20k down on a house for him and he was supposed to pay her back. He instead was using her money to make the payments and pay his bills. So we then had to take him to court and force him to sell the house and hand the money over to the Wife and I to manage. When that ran out it was on us to makeup the difference that her SS didnt cover. The battle with my brother went on for years. Needless to say I dont speak to him anymore.