After years of my parents taking care of me....

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    The Wife and I took care of my mother for several years before we had to place her in assisted living.
    It would have gone much easier if my brother hadn't stolen damn near every dime she had.
    She had over 100k in the bank when dementia set in and she asked my brother to manage her money.
    I told her in no uncertain terms that it was a bad idea.
    She had put 20k down on a house for him and he was supposed to pay her back. He instead was using her money to make the payments and pay his bills.
    So we then had to take him to court and force him to sell the house and hand the money over to the Wife and I to manage.

    When that ran out it was on us to makeup the difference that her SS didnt cover.

    The battle with my brother went on for years.
    Needless to say I dont speak to him anymore.
     
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    It’s been installed....

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    That’s a lotta stairs he won’t have to climb. :)
     

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    I recently had a conversation with my boss about something very similar when he learned I had brother. After asking if I got along with him, he told me about some BS he went through with his sister while making important decisions for his mother.
     
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    With my brother it was alcohol related.
    It's pretty sad really,he was one of the smartest people I've ever met. Pre Med scholarship to A&M where he promptly flunked out.
    Made six figures plus for most of his adult life....then the alcohol took hold.
    He now lives in a crappy one bedroom apartment,isnt allowed to see his daughter and works a shit job.

    I hate to say it but it's what he deserves.
     
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    It’s not uncommon to have a family member unable to help when it’s needed.
    My dad was lucky to have two successful sons who earn a good living.
     
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    Had it just been his inability to help I would have understood.
    His intentional deceit,theft and refusal to give us her banking info was totally unforgivable. He tried to cover his tracks throughout the whole ordeal.
    He tried to go around me and to plead his case with my Wife...unfortunately for him she hated his guts more than I did.

    Where he really miscalculated was the fact the Wife worked as a forensic accountant for a family Law Judge she was friends with.
    She had the connections in the court and dug up all his misdeeds.

    The thing that set Her off? He lived in our home for two years rent free all the while lying to us about my Mothers financial situation while he pissed through over 80k of his own money at bars. He had more than enough money at the time to put down a large down payment on a house. Instead he blew it and when that ran out he got my mother to to put down 20k for a house.
    At one point things grew heated between us and I sent his ass to the hospital....who was the first person he called? Our Mother.

    I could go on and on about his shitty behavior but we were in fact part of the problem by enabling him.
     
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    Damn... that’s fucked up.
     
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    My brother and I might be on opposite sides of the political spectrum, but we’re on the same side of looking out for our dad.
     

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