Advice for daughters: Don't sleep around = Happier life

[Moonglow]

This is likely to drive feminists nuts and I can just hear the "That's a double standard" bleating:

Women who have several sexual partners before getting married have less happy marriages - but men do no harm by playing the field,a study has found.

According to new research by the National Marriage Project, more than half of married women who had only ever slept with their future husband felt highly satisfied in their marriage.

But that percentage dropped to 42 per cent once the woman had had pre-marital sex with at least two partners. It dropped to 22 per cent for those with ten or more partners.

But, for men, the number of partners a man they appeared to have no bearing on how satisfied they felt within a marriage. . . .

The report, by Galena K Rhoades and Scott M Stanley, said the first conclusion of the study was that 'What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas'.

It means our past experiences, especially when it comes to love, are linked to our future marital quality, they said.

The researchers said those who had more partners perhaps find it difficult to commit to their spouse because they were aware of the alternatives.

They added that more experiences of breaking up can give people a 'more jaundiced view of love' which could affect future relationships.

The report said: 'Many in Generation YOLO (you only live once) believe that what happens while you’re young won’t affect your future. But our research paints a different picture.

'This doesn’t mean that sex before marriage will doom a marriage, but sex with many different partners may be risky if you’re looking for a high-quality marriage.'
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The study funded by the Marriage Institute said that ignorance is bliss and you'll be more willing to accept inadequacy if you don't have anything to compare it to.

Do you have a problem with that?

The choice here is a simple one - choose to have multiple sexual partners, keep those memories and savor them, and run a higher risk of lifetime unhappiness, or

Forgo many sexual partners, marry one that you're happy with, and increase the odds of lifetime happiness.

With the former choice you're unhappy but you have great memories of fleeting love affairs. With the latter choice you can read Harlequin romance novels and dream about many lovers and be happy with your life.

How long have you been a women???

 

[Disir]

This is likely to drive feminists nuts and I can just hear the "That's a double standard" bleating:

Women who have several sexual partners before getting married have less happy marriages - but men do no harm by playing the field,a study has found.

According to new research by the National Marriage Project, more than half of married women who had only ever slept with their future husband felt highly satisfied in their marriage.

But that percentage dropped to 42 per cent once the woman had had pre-marital sex with at least two partners. It dropped to 22 per cent for those with ten or more partners.

But, for men, the number of partners a man they appeared to have no bearing on how satisfied they felt within a marriage. . . .

The report, by Galena K Rhoades and Scott M Stanley, said the first conclusion of the study was that 'What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas'.

It means our past experiences, especially when it comes to love, are linked to our future marital quality, they said.

The researchers said those who had more partners perhaps find it difficult to commit to their spouse because they were aware of the alternatives.

They added that more experiences of breaking up can give people a 'more jaundiced view of love' which could affect future relationships.

The report said: 'Many in Generation YOLO (you only live once) believe that what happens while you’re young won’t affect your future. But our research paints a different picture.

'This doesn’t mean that sex before marriage will doom a marriage, but sex with many different partners may be risky if you’re looking for a high-quality marriage.'
​

The study funded by the Marriage Institute said that ignorance is bliss and you'll be more willing to accept inadequacy if you don't have anything to compare it to.

Do you have a problem with that?

The choice here is a simple one - choose to have multiple sexual partners, keep those memories and savor them, and run a higher risk of lifetime unhappiness, or

Forgo many sexual partners, marry one that you're happy with, and increase the odds of lifetime happiness.

With the former choice you're unhappy but you have great memories of fleeting love affairs. With the latter choice you can read Harlequin romance novels and dream about many lovers and be happy with your life.

Yep.

This is the study. Read it.
http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/NMP-BeforeIDoReport-Final.pdf

 

[Jarlaxle]

Keep telling yourself that.

I just love that raw, carnal sexual energy. That euphoria that overcomes you when you're getting fucked good and deep. Flesh against flesh.

The power of Babalon.

Absolutely no emotional connection whatsoever. Just desire. Lust. Pleasure.

Man, woman, doesn't matter. Sometimes both.

Or that feeling when you are between two men in bed, and both are penetrating you deep while biting your neck and sucking on your nipples... that feeling of their muscular bodies on either side of you, the scent of their cologne, their strong grip... your legs start going numb with pleasure...

Or when you're in bed with two other females and you're all just exploring each others perfect bodies... the smooth, clean feeling of their youthful skin, the taste of their lips, the taste of their abdomen when you bite it, and then you go lower and dance with your tongue while someone else does the same to you...

Or sex rituals with your coven. Celebrating one of the Sabbats with an orgy... Wine and music and the women taking turns on the few men of the group, just riding the night away next to the bonfire, maybe ingesting some hallucinagins and adding a surreal, psychodelic demonic mind fuck to the already mind blowing sex.. for hours on end, until nobody can move and we all wake up in the desert under the sun...

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Sounds entertaining...but you misspelled "Babylon".

 

[September]

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I just love that raw, carnal sexual energy. That euphoria that overcomes you when you're getting fucked good and deep. Flesh against flesh.

The power of Babalon.

Absolutely no emotional connection whatsoever. Just desire. Lust. Pleasure.

Man, woman, doesn't matter. Sometimes both.

Or that feeling when you are between two men in bed, and both are penetrating you deep while biting your neck and sucking on your nipples... that feeling of their muscular bodies on either side of you, the scent of their cologne, their strong grip... your legs start going numb with pleasure...

Or when you're in bed with two other females and you're all just exploring each others perfect bodies... the smooth, clean feeling of their youthful skin, the taste of their lips, the taste of their abdomen when you bite it, and then you go lower and dance with your tongue while someone else does the same to you...

Or sex rituals with your coven. Celebrating one of the Sabbats with an orgy... Wine and music and the women taking turns on the few men of the group, just riding the night away next to the bonfire, maybe ingesting some hallucinagins and adding a surreal, psychodelic demonic mind fuck to the already mind blowing sex.. for hours on end, until nobody can move and we all wake up in the desert under the sun...

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Sounds entertaining...but you misspelled "Babylon".

No.

Babalon is a Goddess in Thelema.

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[Rikurzhen]

Here's a similar dynamic in play for men, so you women should be happy about this:

“There seems to be an almost universal agreement among men and women that they would prefer to be in a relationship where the man is taller,” said Abigail Weitzman, lead author of the study published this month by the National Bureau of Economic Research, a nonprofit organization that focuses on how the economy works.

That leaves short men with a smaller pool of women to date and marry. But it’s not all bad news for them. Their relationships tend to last longer, although that may have more to do with their partners’ choices.

Shorter guys -- less than 5-foot-7 -- "get divorced at lower rates,” Weitzman noted. “This probably means that women who don't want to be in a relationship with short men are more likely to leave before they get married, rather than after.”
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Men prefer women who are not sluts, women prefer men who are tall. Sluts cry and complain about the facts of life and want everyone else to change their perceptions so that there is no dating/marriage stigma to sluthood. Where are their male counterparts, short men, in the "Cry Victim" game? Are they having hissy fits instructing women to learn to be attracted to men who are short?

Also notice the different outcomes which result from being on the short end of the desirability stick. Slutty women have higher divorce rates and short men have lower divorce rates. The slutty woman has slept with many men and so has a more difficult time being happy with the man she settled for, she eventually decides that she can do better and divorces him so that she can again be the belle of the ball, except this go-around the ravages of time have fallen on her. She'll never recapture the feelings of being with truly desirable men. The short male though seems to be hanging onto the women he settled for - he doesn't have those rapturous moments from before marriage to sour him on his choice of mate, he was always getting passed over by women.

So will the women who cry unfair now step forward and pledge to re-engineer their mate preferences and vow to find short men attractive in order to end this social injustice? You know, just like they want men to find promiscuous women to high quality wife material.