Adultery

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Well, I guess we should define our terms. I'm not talking about starting up a new relationship after having left your spouse and filing for a divorce. I'm talking about the no-I'm-never-gonna-leave-you-gee-honey-why-are-you-so-suspicious type of adultery.
 
Done it? Had it done to you? Considering it?

What is your stance on adultery?

Here's mine (gained after a lifetime of sorrows of all sorts): There is no excuse. If you are unhappy, fix it or move on. Lying and cheating are so destructive to everyone involved they can never be justified.

agreed.

NO CHEATING or LYING!

if you want to have sex with someone other than your WIFE/LIFE PARTNER/MATE then you OWE IT to them to be honest.
 
The means don't justify the ends, but sometimes it just happens. I think few people in a relationship suddenly wake up one day and decide "I'm going to go out and have an adulterous affair". Situations arise and a tug of war ensues. And there's often times a real toll on all parties involved.
 
Sometimes your clothes accidentially fall off and.....?

C'mon, Mr. H. People choose their behavior.

People choose their behavior under extremely stressful conditions too. Let's not pretend that there are no biological or situational influences.

Jesus was against it to btw.
 
I cheated on a boyfriend, of course it was after he cheated on me and called another girl from my phone.
 
How do you define adultery, Madeline?? I know some women who have felt cheated on just from internet porn. Then there's the cyber/emotional type affair. I don't think I can agree with "no excuse" in all situations, but that's just me.
 
Done it? Had it done to you? Considering it?

What is your stance on adultery?

Here's mine (gained after a lifetime of sorrows of all sorts): There is no excuse. If you are unhappy, fix it or move on. Lying and cheating are so destructive to everyone involved they can never be justified.

I don't give a damn if my husband wants to have sex with someone else. Just don't lie to me or keep secrets from me. Damage my trust, and you'll almost certainly never regain it. And I can't live with someone I can't trust.
 
The means don't justify the ends, but sometimes it just happens. I think few people in a relationship suddenly wake up one day and decide "I'm going to go out and have an adulterous affair". Situations arise and a tug of war ensues. And there's often times a real toll on all parties involved.

Just because it's not premeditated doesn't mean it isn't chosen. There's no such thing as "accidental sex".
 
Well in my case he left me, after months of lying about screwing around on me. I was pregnant and very ill, and although we later reconciled I never got over it. We divorced about several years later, and I think it was almost inevitable that we would. My pain was too great, and he never apologised.

I'm not sure about "porn addiction" and "emotional affairs". One of my dear friends had a lot of anxiety about her husband's online activities, but when the full story was known he was the devil incarnate and now we all hate him. His internet activities were the least of it...but since then, I haven't been so quick to dismiss anyone's anxiety about their partner's "on-line life".
 

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