For those of you who've loved someone- be it romantic or platonic- and had a falling out, I have a question. People talk of 'moving on' and 'letting go', so my question is this: do you still find that something will remind you of that person? Do you find that thought of them are always in the back of your mind, just below consciousness, waiting to be brought forth by something and drive you mad? If such was once the case, yet you no longer find yourself wondering where and how they are or feeling their absence, how long did they linger? How long did it take for their memory to stop feeling like something was missing from your chest? Do you find that you still care, that they still feel like a part of your very essence and you're simply not complete without them? If you did manage to 'let go' and 'move on' without something lingering or being saddened by their memory, how long did it take? It seems like a lot of people I know convince themselves to hate those they once held dear as though it were some sort of defense mechanism against that very sort of sorrow. Do you find yourself doing the same?