A Question for the Moms

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    And an open discussion for all.

    Ok, so I hear at least once a day some woman talk about how men don't know pain this, and labor that, and how it's the most painful thing anybody could possibly go through, and men are all wimps because they complain about things like broken legs and shattered testicles. So, my question is, is it really all that bad?

    My mom, who gave birth to two children with no painkillers, says no. Her theory is that the Hollywood types saw births by women who were on twilight, which dopes you up so you don't remember anything, but makes you crazy while you're on it. They saw the woman yelling and screaming and throwing things and cursing and all this crap, so they always depict childbirth that way on TV (when using this drug, the mother's perspective is waking up in the hospital bed and asking how the baby's doing). Then, the feminist movement picked this whole thing up and used it to call men wusses. Now, she does say that, yes, labor is *quite* uncomfortable, but not as much as a migraine. However, she says maybe it varies from person to person and that just because it wasn't that bad for hear doesn't meant that it isn't that bad for everyone, so I'm just curious. And be honest.
     
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    Heard this analogy of the pain women “may” go through years ago.

    Men, grasp your upper lip (near the corners) with both hands.
    Now pull it as far forward (away from yer face) as you can.
    Now, with one fast continuous movement, pull it UP and over your head until it touches the back of yer neck!

    OUCH!!!
    :)
     
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    Everyone's pain threshhold is different. As for me, it hurt like HELL.

    Many other severe types of pain either make you pass out, or you are quickly anaesthetized and then operated upon. With labor and childbirth, you just have to go through the pain awake, often for many, many hours, unless you opt for a spinal.
     
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    I agree, everyone is different. I went into shock after my first one. A lady I know was there giving birth to her second , the same day I was there. All she'd do is go 'Oh"......."Oh" when her pains came while I writhed in agony. And there was one poor lady there whose hubby vowed never to touch his wife again as she suffered terribly.

    As with the spinal, they wait until the baby's head is crowning before they ever administer it so really isn't all that worth it. But I was scared and it made the actual birth tolerable. And I wasn't allowed up for 8 hours.

    An epidural seems to be the acceptable norm nowadays but as with my DIL, they had to induce labor and told her to wait til she couldn't stand it any longer as the epidural slows the labor down. (I think it's a God-send.)

    Still I don't know of any other way to get kids into this world.
     
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    my wife says her 5 knee surgeries were worse
     
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    I have a really high pain tolerance, but HECK YES, IT HURTS!!! My last two kids and 35 hours of my 2nd child were natural. For me, it wasn't a sharp, breathtaking pain (except the back labor; I don't think anything could possibly be more painful than back labor). But the sheer exhaustion wears you down until you don't think you can stand it any more, and your hormones get all crazy, so you're really emotional.

    I think of it as riding a wave. You just have to ride it out and try not to fight it, because then it really can almost make you panic.
     
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    I guess it is different for everyone. Like I said, my mom was fine for both her kids. And don't get me wrong, I imagine it's quite a burden to go through and I appreciate that I don't have to do it (just sit back and enjoy while I fight to keep ya safe, ladies ;)).

    Still, I don't like childbirth being lorded over me like it means I'm somehow inferior just because "I don't know pain." You know, we all have our burdens to bear, and I don't think I've ever seen a woman fight a war or get kicked in the ovaries. I know I don't need to tell anybody here this, but I think it's healthier to concentrate on overcoming your own burdens rather than telling everyone else yours is worse.

    As for the lip analogy, it's like my mom told me. A woman's birth canal is designed (or evolved, if it really bothers you that much) to stretch to accomodate a child. A man's lip is not designed to stretch over the back of his head.
     
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    as a guy i have few for you for you hobbit......played soccer....took a shoot square in the pills.....peed blood for a few days finaly went to the doctor....they took a 6" q tip and ramed it up my penis.....they we checking for VD :scratch: .....tested negative......so they figured it was a blader thing....a 18" steel rod with a camera on the end was inserted via my penis fill your bladder with water.....that was fun......then you get to pee......after you are done screaming cuz everything is raw......doc will tell you must have rupter a blood vessel it will heal drink lots of water...... :banana2:
     
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    Hobbit, some advice to tuck away for the future: when the day comes that your wife is giving birth, don't tell her the pain can't be that bad, or you will never hear the end of it. ;)
     
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    I'm just curious where this is coming from.
     

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