A Life, Wasted

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    i don't agree... but at least he's not a cindy sheehan clone.

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/02/AR2006010200974.html

    A Life, Wasted
    Let's Stop This War Before More Heroes Are Killed

    By Paul E. Schroeder

    Tuesday, January 3, 2006; Page A17

    Early on Aug. 3, 2005, we heard that 14 Marines had been killed in Haditha, Iraq. Our son, Lance Cpl. Edward "Augie" Schroeder II, was stationed there. At 10:45 a.m. two Marines showed up at our door. After collecting himself for what was clearly painful duty, the lieutenant colonel said, "Your son is a true American hero."

    Since then, two reactions to Augie's death have compounded the sadness.

    At times like this, people say, "He died a hero." I know this is meant with great sincerity. We appreciate the many condolences we have received and how helpful they have been. But when heard repeatedly, the phrases "he died a hero" or "he died a patriot" or "he died for his country" rub raw.

    "People think that if they say that, somehow it makes it okay that he died," our daughter, Amanda, has said. "He was a hero before he died, not just because he went to Iraq. I was proud of him before, and being a patriot doesn't make his death okay. I'm glad he got so much respect at his funeral, but that didn't make it okay either."

    The words "hero" and "patriot" focus on the death, not the life. They are a flag-draped mask covering the truth that few want to acknowledge openly: Death in battle is tragic no matter what the reasons for the war. The tragedy is the life that was lost, not the manner of death. Families of dead soldiers on both sides of the battle line know this. Those without family in the war don't appreciate the difference.

    This leads to the second reaction. Since August we have witnessed growing opposition to the Iraq war, but it is often whispered, hands covering mouths, as if it is dangerous to speak too loudly. Others discuss the never-ending cycle of death in places such as Haditha in academic and sometimes clinical fashion, as in "the increasing lethality of improvised explosive devices."

    Listen to the kinds of things that most Americans don't have to experience: The day Augie's unit returned from Iraq to Camp Lejeune, we received a box with his notebooks, DVDs and clothes from his locker in Iraq. The day his unit returned home to waiting families, we received the second urn of ashes. This lad of promise, of easy charm and readiness to help, whose highest high was saving someone using CPR as a first aid squad volunteer, came home in one coffin and two urns. We buried him in three places that he loved, a fitting irony, I suppose, but just as rough each time.

    I am outraged at what I see as the cause of his death. For nearly three years, the Bush administration has pursued a policy that makes our troops sitting ducks. While Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice told the Senate Foreign Relations Committee that our policy is to "clear, hold and build" Iraqi towns, there aren't enough troops to do that.

    In our last conversation, Augie complained that the cost in lives to clear insurgents was "less and less worth it," because Marines have to keep coming back to clear the same places. Marine commanders in the field say the same thing. Without sufficient troops, they can't hold the towns. Augie was killed on his fifth mission to clear Haditha.

    At Augie's grave, the lieutenant colonel knelt in front of my wife and, with tears in his eyes, handed her the folded flag. He said the only thing he could say openly: "Your son was a true American hero." Perhaps. But I felt no glory, no honor. Doing your duty when you don't know whether you will see the end of the day is certainly heroic. But even more, being a hero comes from respecting your parents and all others, from helping your neighbors and strangers, from loving your spouse, your children, your neighbors and your enemies, from honesty and integrity, from knowing when to fight and when to walk away, and from understanding and respecting the differences among the people of the world.

    Two painful questions remain for all of us. Are the lives of Americans being killed in Iraq wasted? Are they dying in vain? President Bush says those who criticize staying the course are not honoring the dead. That is twisted logic: honor the fallen by killing another 2,000 troops in a broken policy?

    I choose to honor our fallen hero by remembering who he was in life, not how he died. A picture of a smiling Augie in Iraq, sunglasses turned upside down, shows his essence -- a joyous kid who could use any prop to make others feel the same way.

    Though it hurts, I believe that his death -- and that of the other Americans who have died in Iraq -- was a waste. They were wasted in a belief that democracy would grow simply by removing a dictator -- a careless misunderstanding of what democracy requires. They were wasted by not sending enough troops to do the job needed in the resulting occupation -- a careless disregard for professional military counsel.

    But their deaths will not be in vain if Americans stop hiding behind flag-draped hero masks and stop whispering their opposition to this war. Until then, the lives of other sons, daughters, husbands, wives, fathers and mothers may be wasted as well.

    This is very painful to acknowledge, and I have to live with it. So does President Bush.

    The writer is managing director of a trade development firm in Cleveland.
    © 2006 The Washington Post Company
     
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    There are some things worth dying for. These parents should be ashamed pretending that he will be a hero ONLY if people use this as an opportunity to chant the "war is never worth it" mantra. They're not much better than Sheehan.
     
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    Not many Republicans believe this; that is why we are spending so much time and energy to rebuild, to teach.
    And WHO is crying to bring the troops home? WHO says we don't need all our people over there?

    Twisted logic? We have to keep retaking Haditha, right? So we should pull all out, and have to retake all of Iraq?

    It is the jelly-backed, not-so-whispery opposition who slap the faces of our heroes---alive AND dead---when they say this cause is not worth fighting and FINISHING.
     
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    I doubt the Marine thought his life was wasted. As a LCpl, he obviously enlisted AFTER the war started, so he felt he was doing the right thing.

    "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."

    John 15:13
     
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    What would he have said if his son's life had been taken by a gang member in downtown L.A. for some Nikes he was wearing, in a automobile wreck, from a disease. . . we all die sometime, some sooner than others, some accomplishing nothing. He died feeling that he was accomplishing something important or he wouldn't have been there. As for the father's claim that his son was complaining about the "mission being less and less worth it" the last time they spoke, I wonder if he meant it in the same way the father is using it, I doubt it. Disagreeing with the way a war is prosecuted has nothing to do with the belief in what he was doing there was worthy.
    How many troops is the correct amount to have in Mr. Schroeder's opinion? What if his son had died in a training accident in the States, what would have been the anti-war spin then? It is sad that Mr. Schroeder has so little respect for his son's beliefs that he would use his death to further push his own agenda, his son wasn't drafted and was doing what he wanted to do.
     

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