Religion/Ethics...Yeah...I'm not sure if I see the link between what I'm about to write, and this forum. My decision for placing here is based on how I feel the replies will go, and because I'm basing what I am about to write on things of the heart...of the soul. Having 'said' that... Easter Sunday, in the evening, my brother called to invite my family to his place for desert. My (and my brother's) Father&Mother-in-law were at his home as well. During the discussion the topic of matters of the heart - passion - intimacy, etc was raised. Speaking about my wife, I quoted a line from the movie "Alex and Emma" - Emma said to Alex, "Hey, I'm Passionate!" to which Alex replied, "Yeah, if the dishes are done...". I related that to how my wife often can't enjoy a moment if there exists something in the house that 'has to be done'. My mother in law replied with "I agree - If I have everything done around the house, only then am I able to relax and enjoy my husband!" The girls there (My wife and her sister and Mom) all harrumphed and agreed before I interrupted with something meant to sound like: "Okay Mom...so say you have 4 hours of work around the house that has to be done. Dad leaves for work at 6:30am, and figure Dad is home every evening from 5pm, until he goes to bed at 9pm. How about this - instead of finishing everything you have to do, THEN enjoying Dad, how about reversing the order. What about Enjoying Dad, and THEN working around the house. You know you'll see him at 5pm, use the time before he gets home to get done whatever you wanted to do. If you don't have time, do the rest tomorrow. She quickly replied with the adage "Don't put off for tomorrow what can be done today!" The conversation sort of changed directions soon after...but I still haven't forgotten her words. The words - her last line - sort of haunt me. The more I think on them the more troubled I become. Have you been to a funeral? I've been fortunate enough to have had few people close to me die. While at my Grandfather's funeral, I never heard the following: "I wish I wouldn't have spent so much time with Grandpa. I wish I hadn't sat on the sofa with Grandpa, just watching TV - I mean, I could have gotten a LOT more done around the house." Although I cannot be 100% certain, while on their deathbed, people won't often lament how they won't have time to get one more load of laundry finished. I'd bet money their thoughts are not "Lord, let me live just awhile longer - I have to vacuum". Don't put off for tomorrow what can be done today. Isn't that exactly what is happening? A spouse who lives by that is telling their mate "I'm going to put you off for tomorrow (or later), because I want to do something else with my time today (right now)." I implore you, husbands and wives, don't put off your affections or attention for your spouse. Don't wait until you have time for them. Do not let a night go by without at least once snuggling over to 'their side' of the bed and cuddling with them. There will be a day, and I pray it's not soon, but reality tells me there will be a day coming where you would give everything you have for one more hug. One more Kiss. One more touch of the person you have committed to love. We've all heard the advice "Schedule time" for your mate. "Make time" to be together. In principle that is fine, however I'd suggest taking it a step further. I'd suggest a marriage would be better served if couples were so into each other, they had to 'make time' to do laundry, or 'schedule an hour' for doing the dishes. I think the ultimate example of a happy marriage is a marriage where both partners strive to love their mate. Love, in this case is an 'action'...not a 'feeling'. Love your spouse, and the rest will fall into place. Only when we put as much effort into loving our husband or wife as we put into other areas, will our marriages become full.