10 Ways You Are Ruining Your Own Happiness

jchima

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You know that saying “I am my own worst enemy?” Well, it’s true. You can have meaningful, loving relationships with others, have a great career and seem to have everything going for you but still not be happy. There are habits you can fall into that can be destroying your own happiness. Things that you may not even realize you are doing. Here are a few things I have found myself doing that only bring misery and not happiness.

1. Comparison

Nowadays, it is extremely easy to compare yourself with others. Social media will often display all the amazing achievements of others. The reality is hardly anyone puts what is really going on in their life on social media. It’s easy to post a picture of what seems like a perfect day, while on the other side of the camera your kids are throwing tantrums, your spouse is mad at you and you just got a bad review at work. Please don’t fall into the trap of everyone’s life is better than yours. Everyone is different; everyone has different challenges, failures and successes. Count your own blessings and achievements.

2. Comfort zones

Oh, comfort zones, the area where we want to live and never leave. They’re so cozy and familiar, but usually what keeps us from being even better. What we want usually lies just beyond our comfort zone. Are you willing to get dirty, push your limits and even be uncomfortable at times to achieve it? Perhaps the grass really is greener… outside our comfort zone.

3. Laziness

Piggybacking on comfort zones is laziness. It’s natural to be lazy, but it is detrimental to progress and growth. Being busy actually helps people get more done in a day. It forces us to structure our day and schedule things we know we need to get done. When we have all day to complete a task, it is natural to put it off with the thought that we will get to it later, and then before you know it, the day is over and the task was never completed. Try to add structure to your day. Our bodies thrive on routine, so get up at the same time each day, tackle your hardest tasks first, and make sure you go to bed at a set time each night.

4. Debt

Being in debt can really tear at our happiness. Financial problems can lead to stress, worry and even marital issues. Stop buying things on credit, build a savings and set money aside for emergencies. This is a lot easier said than done, but if you are able to do this, you will have a huge burden lifted from your shoulders.

- See more at: 10 Ways You Are Ruining Your Own Happiness - eReporter
 
Actually I thought there were many good points made.

But as alluded to by Anathema, it deals only with things to avoid rather than things to do or be.

America seems to have forgotten that the best way to get "self-esteem" is to behave in a way that is exemplary or admirable. Work hard, tell the truth, don't bitch, keep your promises, treat EVERYONE respectfully, etc. Self-esteem follows.

Which is a major component of "happiness."
 
"Happy" comes from the root 'hap', as in happenstance. Happiness is contingent upon circumstance.
Joy is different. Joy is the proverbial moveable feast. You take it wherever you go, through all circumstances.
 
12. Can't be happy if during your leisure time you're exhibiting negativity. Discussion site time spent cussing and bullying means your conditioning yourself to regard leisure "fun" time as something negative which is gonna cross-over into the other areas of your life.
 

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